Monthly Archives: January 2013

“Directive” in “Advance Directive” says too much

The term “directive” in the phrase Advance Directives goes too far. First it seems obligatory, when what is going on is in the nature of a request: help me, use your best faculties to figure out what’s best for a … Continue reading

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Death is not a failure

Death is not a failure. Death can be a coming home, or a relief, or an end of suffering. Death can be a culmination, a whole-making, a healing. Death can be a fulfilling. Death can be welcoming, friendly. Death is … Continue reading

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We should all give up

If we think death is a failure we should all give up. :- Doug.

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Readying for the two way opening

Conversation is not only telling another nor yet only hearing the other it is as well readying for the two way opening :- Doug.

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Life is in the interruptions

Life is in the interruptions. :- Doug.

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Find happiness

When we live beyond ourselves our little crises, worries and troubles & weave our humanity into others’ lives we find happiness :- Doug.

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When do we ask a child?

When do we ask the child what they want? At the death of a guppy a puppy or Pappy? :- Doug.

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A sacred/secret thing

Dying is a sacred secret thing :- Doug.

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Something good in their hearts

Humans don’t so much convey to people as from them: Family does not know what is best for their loved one; Still, they have —beneath their unbending positions— something good in their hearts We as helpers are called to go … Continue reading

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Your heart, seasoned

Speak what is upon your heart, seasoned. :- Doug.

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Slow me!

Slow me, slow me! Sometimes I want to quickly move along. Yet the best of life is always here. :- Doug.

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The silent vow

Don’t put off “until the time” sharing what you want when seriously ill: if you can converse at that time, it may happen that no one will want to break the silent vow of “keep life going.” You can exercise … Continue reading

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Before I go?

What is the most important thing I need to share with my family before I go? :- Doug.

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Too early–so far–not yet

Let us use phrases like too early—so far—not yet. It is compassionate. It says there is more good to come, more good for us to find. Together. :- Doug.

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Dying slowly

Today we have all these chronic diseases. So we die slowly, over weeks and months and years. We are perhaps too early in this phase to realize that dying is a human event we must work with and care about. … Continue reading

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The quality of our dying?

We speak of quality of life but do we ask What is the quality of our dying? :- Doug.

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Rest reflect renew

Rest reflect renew :- Doug.

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