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- A. Nursing Home Compare, Federal
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The right answer to aging?
What is the right answer to aging? What is the right answer to caring for your parents?
:- Doug.
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Elder caring is like running the East Race
Elder caring is like running the East Race. I do not know how it will come out. It is different each time.
:- Doug.
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When one of us is aging….
When one of us is aging our only options are to respond with love or fear. Anything not love is fear.
:- Doug.
Posted in Aging, Conversation, Family, Healing and Wholeness
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This family can….
This family can live and love into our future. Let’s get to work.
:- Doug.
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What would you be willing to do?
What would you be willing to do to help your family come alive now?
:- Doug.
What would you be willing to do to help your family come alive now?
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How young are you?
How young are you?
:- Doug.
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What questions could this family ask?
What questions could this family ask which would start us on a game of hide and seek?
:- Doug.
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Working with caring people
I work with caring people
some of whom are
elders of our tribe
:- Doug.
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Thinking clearly with our hearts.
Thinking clearly with our hearts.
:- Doug.
Posted in Conversation, Eldering, Healing and Wholeness
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Blessing are here
One of the most pernicious things we do in this society is to act as if we are separate from others, especially from our family and friends. They benefit from us, and we from them. We should not withdraw, fearing that we might be a burden to others, that we are interfering with their lives. We are part of each other’s lives. We ought to share what is going on, burdens and sorrows as well as joys and capacities. Parents take care of young children; parents should be willing to ask adult children to share lives in later years. There is much to be gained, only little things to be lost. I have a new disability, I have a need, we have a wisdom to share and a hand to help. Blessings are here and not in pulling away.
:- Doug.
Posted in Conversation, Family, Long-Term Care
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Ask for bigger eyes
It is difficult in family long term care settings to see any larger truth, let alone make sense of it. What to do when we are blind?
Maybe we can ask of one another:
What else do you notice?
What is possible now?
Tell me if I have heard you right….
Tell me a story about why this is important….
Have there been times when you saw things differently, saw hope?
What do we believe is true in this situation?
What are our assumptions?
Essentially: 1. call a time out and 2. ask for bigger eyes.
:- Doug.
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