Category Archives: Emergency/Crisis Medical

What level of being alive?

What level of being alive is tolerable to you? What is being alive?

:- Doug.

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How do you want to spend your time?

How do you want to spend your time if your health worsens? If there were only a 50% chance of getting out of bed? 25%? 10%?

:- Doug.

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How can we make end of life fulfilling, healing?

How can we make end of life fulfilling, healing?

:- Doug.

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Don’t make your doctor your enemy

Don’t make your doctor your enemy—enlist your doctor to do what you want.

:- Doug.

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What I want for you:

What I want for you:
1. To have the conversation with your family;
2. To have the conversation with your doctor.

:- Doug.

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How do we know when we are dying?

How do we know when we are dying? When ought we bring our 17 Things into play? Is it a per centage chance of survival? Is it time left? Is it when we don’t like the looks of life if we choose what’s offered?

Maybe we just have to face our thinking now.

:- Doug.

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measuring more finely in end of life

We need to measure outcomes of end of life caring more finely: for the larger outcome for us all is death. What if we looked for outcomes in dying?

:- Doug.

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What would intensive tenderness look like?

What would intensive tenderness look like?

:- Doug.

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Intensive care helps us live longer?

We tend to think more intensive care helps us live longer. Statistics suggest that may not be the case. Beyond that, we might not even know what we mean by living.

:- Doug.

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Pushy way we want medicine practiced

More people on hospice as compared with people not on hospice live to 1 year and 2 years after diagnosis. Live longer with less aggressive more kindly caring. What does this say about medicine and particularly the pushy way we want it practiced?

:- Doug.

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Courts are a utility

Courts are a utility. Courts are not a hindrance, but a way to get clarity and finality, commodities rare in our world. When you need water you go to the water utility, for electricity you go to a different place. A trust is good for fair weather for monetary assets for long terms. But if you need a quick disposition of human issues, a court may be your choice.

:- Doug.

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Helping Dad care for Mom

I am helping Dad care for Mom, and still be able to eat and live at home. But more, I am helping families come to terms with each other and with Mom’s new normal.

In the community I am helping folks come to terms with their own deaths and preferences around that, and with getting families to come together. Especially in the sacred intimacy of strangers.

Beyond this my community work could get people reflecting together (T4) around What are our responsibilities to and for our elders?

:- Doug.

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Getting to help

I get to help people in the crises of nursing home, long-term illness, and death. This is very fulfilling because I get to do much good.

:- Doug.

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“Sickness and in health:”

“Sickness and in health:” in those days sickness left in a few days or weeks. We had no inkling that sickness could be the balance of someone’s life.

:- Doug.

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Hospitalization upside down

My world has gotten so turned upside down by this hospitalization, I have found it hard to think about meetings and wholes—my thoughts have contracted to the size of my medical issues.

:- Doug.

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This can be a good thing

This can be a good thing.

:- Doug.

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loving in new ways

Parents, children and spouse love each other in new ways in unexpected situations.

:- Doug.

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