Category Archives: Emergency/Crisis Medical

Getting to help

I get to help people in the crises of nursing home, long-term illness, and death. This is very fulfilling because I get to do much good.

:- Doug.

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“Sickness and in health:”

“Sickness and in health:” in those days sickness left in a few days or weeks. We had no inkling that sickness could be the balance of someone’s life.

:- Doug.

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Hospitalization upside down

My world has gotten so turned upside down by this hospitalization, I have found it hard to think about meetings and wholes—my thoughts have contracted to the size of my medical issues.

:- Doug.

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This can be a good thing

This can be a good thing.

:- Doug.

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loving in new ways

Parents, children and spouse love each other in new ways in unexpected situations.

:- Doug.

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most ordinary leftovers

This conversation you are about to have around end of life preferences is the most ordinary thing possible. It’s about the folks left behind, the leftovers.

:- Doug.

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Hospice earlier than 7 days before?

Why would we want hospice earlier than 7 days before we die? Why would we want to live well our last months? It’s not about making comfortable, it’s about living truth whole.

:- Doug.

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Our family holds a story:

Our family holds
a story:
a stroke, trach tube, speech gone,
crisis, must pull together,
but years ago harsh words,
hard to stitch this rent fabric

Holding our breath
we consult a lawyer
the lawyer has no silver needle
only starts re-telling our story
what good is that?
we learn we are like others
we see one or two choices
the lawyer did not heal us
shifting the shape of our story
invited our new story
is that healing?

:- Doug.

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maps of the territory

I have maps of the territory and can act as your guide.

:- Doug.

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It’s Dad

It’s Dad
It’s family
We’re gathered for

:- Doug.

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Cure or comfort, how can we know?

How can we in the early 21st Century know when to go from cure to comfort? Or should we like water, like life, gradually flow? Can we, ought we, make such a distinction? Ought we seek to give comfort whenever we can, at all times, ever?

:- Doug.

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More time with you

A lawyer can take more time with you.

:- Doug.

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knowledge of medicine, tender, tough?

What characteristics would you want in someone making big medical decisions for you: good head, good heart, imagination, knowledge of medicine, tender, tough?

:- Doug.

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the root of all challenges

O save us from conflict
Battles and wars
Competitors, rivals, enemies everywhere
But the root of all challenges
Is with one another: our connection

:- Doug.

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I cannot answer your questions

I cannot answer your questions. I can only address them. Only you can answer your questions. You take in what I give you, adjust its fit and assimilate into yourself only what fits for you.

:- Doug.

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How doctors die

Friends–

Here is a New York Times article that you will want to read. Check out some of its links, too!

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/11/20/your-money/how-doctors-die.html?src=me&_r=0

:- Doug.

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Where is love in POST?

Where is love in POST? Where is love in Conversation? Where is compassion?

:- Doug.

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