Category Archives: Emergency/Crisis Medical

A third choice

Most people think that their only choices when facing a “nothing more we can do” declaration are 1. do everything; 2. Give up. A third choice is to make each day good, as good as we can.

:- Doug.

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It’s really reflection and heart work

It’s really reflection and heart work, even though on the surface we are talking about nursing homes, Medicaid, and end of life decisions.

:- Doug.

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family and what matters

My work is with elders in crisis. My work is with reflection and heart, truth and beauty, family and what matters. People caring for people in a nursing home setting. In an end of life setting. Crisis does name nursing home and end of life. Elders implies reflection and love. Heart.

:- Doug.

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What can we make of this news?

I will give you news you already know: Mom is going to die. Now, what can we make of the next months and years?

:- Doug.

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Elders in crisis

Elders in crisis and I work on reflection and heart matters.

:- Doug.

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Can I accept compassion?

Can I accept compassion?

:- Doug.

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How many need to have the end of life conversation?

How many people need to have the end of life conversation? In our country? Our state?

:- Doug.

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Medicine extending our days

Medicine can extend our days. In so doing, extend our suffering.

:- Doug.

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safe from the crisis

The conversations I invite take place safe from the crisis. Yet they prepare us for the crisis. In a sense they are memento mori (remember dying): memento viventium (remember living) in the face of memento mori. Not so we have a ready answer, so we remember how.

:- Doug.

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Crisis medical

Crisis medical sounds like a good term instead of emergency medical. Its root meaning is life and death decision point, and its connotation is people running around under emotional pressure and distress to do or not do something. So it is perhaps the term I should choose more often.

:- Doug.

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What level of being alive?

What level of being alive is tolerable to you? What is being alive?

:- Doug.

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How do you want to spend your time?

How do you want to spend your time if your health worsens? If there were only a 50% chance of getting out of bed? 25%? 10%?

:- Doug.

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How can we make end of life fulfilling, healing?

How can we make end of life fulfilling, healing?

:- Doug.

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Don’t make your doctor your enemy

Don’t make your doctor your enemy—enlist your doctor to do what you want.

:- Doug.

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What I want for you:

What I want for you:
1. To have the conversation with your family;
2. To have the conversation with your doctor.

:- Doug.

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How do we know when we are dying?

How do we know when we are dying? When ought we bring our 17 Things into play? Is it a per centage chance of survival? Is it time left? Is it when we don’t like the looks of life if we choose what’s offered?

Maybe we just have to face our thinking now.

:- Doug.

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measuring more finely in end of life

We need to measure outcomes of end of life caring more finely: for the larger outcome for us all is death. What if we looked for outcomes in dying?

:- Doug.

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