Category Archives: Emergency/Crisis Medical

Why do we from the hospital

Why do we from the hospital
Seek home?
It is the place of life
Where we are known
And live
What does this say about
How we hospital?

:- Doug.

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There comes a now

There comes a now
For me to give up cure
And work on healing.

:- Doug.

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Will I be relevant to me?

Will I be relevant to me?
A year or two from now?
A step or two down my road?

:- Doug.

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Making the decision easier?

Is asking What would Dad want a way of making our decision easier? Yes, and that is not bad. But sometimes we need to think harder and more deeply for ourselves—and them. What is a good child to do?

:- Doug.

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My family will do the right thing?

My family will do the right thing. But how will they know? Unless I tell them?

:- Doug.

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What life are we doing everything to keep going?

What life are we doing everything to keep going? The tubes and technology and drug-induced grogginess, interacting with new strangers every few hours? Or the most profound days of our lives? What can we do to make the latter?

:- Doug.

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someday you will not be allowed

Someday you
will not be allowed
to decide
find out now
decide now for when

:- Doug.

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A third choice

Most people think that their only choices when facing a “nothing more we can do” declaration are 1. do everything; 2. Give up. A third choice is to make each day good, as good as we can.

:- Doug.

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It’s really reflection and heart work

It’s really reflection and heart work, even though on the surface we are talking about nursing homes, Medicaid, and end of life decisions.

:- Doug.

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family and what matters

My work is with elders in crisis. My work is with reflection and heart, truth and beauty, family and what matters. People caring for people in a nursing home setting. In an end of life setting. Crisis does name nursing home and end of life. Elders implies reflection and love. Heart.

:- Doug.

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What can we make of this news?

I will give you news you already know: Mom is going to die. Now, what can we make of the next months and years?

:- Doug.

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Elders in crisis

Elders in crisis and I work on reflection and heart matters.

:- Doug.

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Can I accept compassion?

Can I accept compassion?

:- Doug.

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How many need to have the end of life conversation?

How many people need to have the end of life conversation? In our country? Our state?

:- Doug.

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Medicine extending our days

Medicine can extend our days. In so doing, extend our suffering.

:- Doug.

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safe from the crisis

The conversations I invite take place safe from the crisis. Yet they prepare us for the crisis. In a sense they are memento mori (remember dying): memento viventium (remember living) in the face of memento mori. Not so we have a ready answer, so we remember how.

:- Doug.

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Crisis medical

Crisis medical sounds like a good term instead of emergency medical. Its root meaning is life and death decision point, and its connotation is people running around under emotional pressure and distress to do or not do something. So it is perhaps the term I should choose more often.

:- Doug.

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