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- A work of parent and child, and of lovers
- Cancer and gentle loving metaphors
- Let us be gentle with one another
- Four meanings of your life?
- The profession of people meeting well:
- Completing our living is peeling an onion:
- a warp and woof you cannot unweave
- Observation Status Fact Sheet
- The classical guides in dying
- Why does it matter?
- The end of life conversation is about justice–
- When settling in to tell a story to children
- We’re all amateurs
- While you’re yet living….
- Great quantities of unknown
- Less a technician am I than lover & hearer & fan
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Monthly Archives: April 2012
Our elders: a resource we’re wasting.
We often get stuck in what’s not working, what’s the problem. Let us resolve to turn our heads when lost and see what is working.
In our families, when we are hurt or afraid and want to pull away, we may help this way.
Yesterday I met with two sisters to converse about care for Mom. The meeting grew heated; one was dog tired.
The sisters have a need to continue as family. Both need to find a way to deal with their emotions.
To do that, they need to see what the emotions are and untangle them, so they can address them. The emotions are serving us, giving us something valuable. The emotions are telling us something needs attention. So we need to bring that attention. But not on the emotion, on what the emotion is telling us: what is important here?
In families we love to devise ways to play well together. Does more experience with playing together help us? Does more experience with playing well together help us?
If at the start you have to ask what a service will cost, maybe I cannot afford you as a client. Maybe you are so hung up on money that you will be blinded to doing what you need. That could tie my hands—and yours.
Don’t count on the Veteran’s Administration or even Medicaid for all your Long-Term Care. You still need love: a kind touch, a cold wash cloth.
Given this—Dad’s dementia or Mom’s decline—how can we fit together, now? What are our special gifts, needs, fears and visions, and what’s possible with us?
Come out and see, without cost, the Indiana premier of the documentary (featuring Mickey Rooney), “Last Will and Embezzlement.”
Wednesday evening, May 30, 2012, at the O’Laughlin Auditorium at Saint Mary’s College, Notre Dame, IN. Doors open 6:00 pm, Film begins at 7:00, with panel presentation featuring the film’s writer & producer, Pamela Glasner. A dessert reception starts at 6:00 pm.
It is free, but you must rsvp to 574/239-8364, or email email@example.com.
Come and watch!
What can we find in elder conversation?
Will me a secret
Will me a piece of junk
That I have the fun
Of figuring why you’d
Will me that
There is another image coming for me today: retirement, our own later years, turning them purposely toward bringing family closer together. We work and play with these our family members, children, grandchildren, sister, brother, individually and together. With renewed intention we move toward interweaving our lives with one another. This certainly starts bringing my practice into my life and my life into my practice.
I am not the expert. I am not here to teach you anything. You are the experts. You will teach—and invent me and each other.
Much financial planning these days is grounded in an unstated end game of self sufficiency. It’s all about me. We will not rely upon our children in our retirement, we will do what we want. We will not even involve our children. This is moving counter to the direction of humanity which is itself coming together, toward community from lone stranger among us. Do we really want to be the me generation? Is it our highest and best?