Category Archives: Family

Make room

Posted on April 9, 2013 by dgermann

Help families make room for a good death. :- Doug.

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Loving them as they die?

Posted on April 6, 2013 by dgermann

How then shall we live as we die? How then shall we love them as they die? :- Doug.

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There was a phrase in one end of life study report I read this morning: unrealistic expectations. Families have unrealistic expectations about what can be done for their loved one at the end of life. We can say that whatever … Continue reading →

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No guarantees: only curiosity

Posted on April 4, 2013 by dgermann

No guarantees: only curiosity. :- Doug.

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This is harder on your family:

Posted on April 3, 2013 by dgermann

It’s harder on your family to not have the conversation. :- Doug.

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“California daughters?”

Posted on April 1, 2013 by dgermann

What if we invited a room full of “California Daughters” to talk about end of life care for Mom and Dad? :- Doug.

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I represent dying people…to you

Posted on March 26, 2013 by dgermann

I represent dying people…to you I represent your mother, father, sister, husband, wife I represent the older you to you Generations of dying people—us To us Asking us to consider what is a good death & how we can get … Continue reading →

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The case of Lorraine Bayless

Posted on March 16, 2013 by dgermann

The case of Lorraine Bayless is a perfect example: an 87 year old for whom no CPR was given holds a mirror up for us of the complexity of our end of life. We have a 75% idea about CPR … Continue reading →

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Our dog begs from us play

Posted on March 15, 2013 by dgermann

Our dog begs from us food and play and a walk, showing joy in being with us. Asking, playing: a way we too can give. :- Doug.

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Here might be our highest value

Posted on March 14, 2013 by dgermann

When our eyes meet— When our ears meet— Passes between us humanity & here might be our highest value :- Doug.

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When it comes to family we need to do things right

Posted on March 12, 2013 by dgermann

When it comes to family, we need to do things right. Do it yourself legal documents or treating yourself for serious medical conditions will not do. Love one another. Put yourself out for one another. :- Doug.

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Three stages of health in our later years

Posted on March 3, 2013 by dgermann

There are three stages of our health in later years: Healthful years with few big issues; Years when bigger things start narrowing our possible issues; Frail times when we are in decline. Lawyers can help folks think generally and without … Continue reading →

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Puddles

Posted on March 1, 2013 by dgermann

One water Many puddles :- Doug.

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We face what life brings us

Posted on February 22, 2013 by dgermann

We face what life brings us as it brings us together; we are new every moment and are able to create and mold life every moment. And there is only one life. :- Doug.

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We lawyers need to think about:

Posted on February 21, 2013 by dgermann

As lawyers, and especially together as lawyers, we need to think about what matters to our clients and their families. We cannot heal an individual in isolation: and make no mistake—we are healers: whole-makers. Our clients are pulling together the … Continue reading →

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Trouble

Posted on February 20, 2013 by dgermann

Anticipation of trouble is more trouble than the trouble itself We’ll face what comes when it gets here :- Doug.

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I am responsible

Posted on February 19, 2013 by dgermann

I am responsible though I do not control I can create that which I will not direct Community, relatedness, us This is ever the way Love demands responsibility and starting Looks not to results Bringing a new life into the … Continue reading →

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