Category Archives: Family

Goes a different place

Posted on May 15, 2013 by dgermann

It is good conversation goes a different place from where we imagined. :- Doug.

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The individual as the gold standard

Posted on May 13, 2013 by dgermann

The gold standard in much of our life in this culture, especially in the care of those approaching death, is the individual. What does that individual want? Yet each of us is made up of many of us: our parents, … Continue reading →

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“As you wish”

Posted on May 10, 2013 by dgermann

How you are cared for as you die is about autonomy—you should be able to die as you wish—but also your “as you wish” can only be complete after hearing out your loving ones. When you die, a part of … Continue reading →

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From autonomy to making room for family in eol

Posted on May 7, 2013 by dgermann

My thinking is turning gradually from the absolute standard of autonomy, making some room in my thinking for what are the wishes of the family, defining family as all those around who are approaching death with this person, who will … Continue reading →

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Conversing is Caring

Posted on May 6, 2013 by dgermann

Conversing is Caring. :- Doug.

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Invite people

Posted on May 4, 2013 by dgermann

Invite people to notice when they are doing well. :- Doug.

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People around us stand to have pain, remorse….

Posted on April 26, 2013 by dgermann

People around us stand to have a great deal of pain, remorse, guilt, anger and more around our deaths. We can do something about that now while we are healthy and later nearing our deaths. We must open space for … Continue reading →

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Study: Costs of caregiving to Employers

Posted on April 25, 2013 by dgermann

MetLife has published a study on the costs to employers of having someone on staff caring for a family member. For instance, the healthcare costs for that employee are 8% higher for those with eldercare responsibilities. Take a look here. … Continue reading →

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What role for family?

Posted on April 25, 2013 by dgermann

What of the role of the family and others who love the dying person? Are they merely empty conduits for the carrying of information? How can we love our families in the ways we choose to die? Should we for … Continue reading →

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When Dad lies there dying….

Posted on April 24, 2013 by dgermann

When Dad lies there dying how might we best love Dad and one another? Or when we are not clear that Dad is dying? :- Doug.

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Could family and friend caregivers come together…?

Posted on April 20, 2013 by dgermann

Could family and friend caregivers come together to help our national community better support the ones for whom we care? Perhaps we could concentrate on the three main trajectory disease groups: cancers and their cliffs; chronic heart diseases and emphysema … Continue reading →

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The work of dying is about….

Posted on April 19, 2013 by dgermann

The work of dying is about conversing with: your self; meaning; the incomprehensibility of dying; family; community; something larger. :- Doug.

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Birth is a terminal condition….

Posted on April 18, 2013 by dgermann

Birth is a terminal condition. So we are working on our dying even today, in good health, while our daily rounds continue. This conversing about what care we want at end of life is saying I love you to one … Continue reading →

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How will I know I’m dying?

Posted on April 15, 2013 by dgermann

How will I know I’m dying? How will my family know? :- Doug.

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For cure or for care?

Posted on April 13, 2013 by dgermann

If you are terminally ill do you want to be treated for cure or for care? :- Doug.

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The uncommonly good

Posted on April 12, 2013 by dgermann

Let’s look among us for the uncommonly good. :- Doug.

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Who’s doing it well?

Posted on April 10, 2013 by dgermann

Who’s doing it well? Follow that one. :- Doug.

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