Category Archives: Family

Help me speak from my dementia

Posted on December 2, 2013 by dgermann

Help me speak from my dementia Since I have trouble thinking But I feel, I see, I exist I want to love you And be respected Because I am, still I remember, I remember The songs, the dances, The babies … Continue reading →

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If death is ceasing to stand out….

Posted on November 28, 2013 by dgermann

If death is ceasing to exist, ceasing to stand out—and surely we see this when we think of our ancestors whom we never saw, with whom we never conversed: when they died they ceased to stand out to us and … Continue reading →

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To a dying client and her daughter

Posted on November 25, 2013 by dgermann

To a dying client and her daughter— What are you savoring of your presence to each other, your together-events? :- Doug.

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Does time with your family…?

Posted on November 23, 2013 by dgermann

Does time with your family take possibility or find it? Take life or create it? :- Doug.

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Reflecting one another

Posted on November 22, 2013 by dgermann

Less do we affect one another than reflect one another. :- Doug.

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How doctors die

Posted on November 20, 2013 by dgermann

Friends– Here is a New York Times article that you will want to read. Check out some of its links, too! http://www.nytimes.com/2013/11/20/your-money/how-doctors-die.html?src=me&_r=0 :- Doug.

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It’s justice for life

Posted on November 20, 2013 by dgermann

It’s justice I’m after a word spoken of lawyers whispered by lawyers only in their dreams shouted by the souls of us —all of us— approaching death It’s justice for life and the living of it :- Doug.

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What do your relations need from you?

Posted on November 18, 2013 by dgermann

Imagine your seventh last day: What do your relations need from you? :- Doug.

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For whom compassion?

Posted on November 12, 2013 by dgermann

For whom do we need to have compassion? The dying, their families, their nurses and doctors? Someone else? Who are our community’s exemplars of compassion? Who are the faces of compassion in our community? Whom should we invite to this … Continue reading →

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the story that holds them all

Posted on November 11, 2013 by dgermann

Story comes through conversing. Story uses conversation to weave movement, indeed to weave itself. We meet: we make a story together. The story is us, and the story is you and the story is me. We create each of these … Continue reading →

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To get beyond the old conversation:

Posted on November 10, 2013 by dgermann

To get beyond the old conversation, get beyond the old conversation: start a new one. A new conversation, more important, outflanking the troublesome one, overwhelming any interest in the old. Pull us in. Divert to the more significant conversation. :- … Continue reading →

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Let’s make conversation

Posted on November 9, 2013 by dgermann

Let’s make conversation conversation rich, textured and opening :- Doug.

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It is a month or two off

Posted on November 8, 2013 by dgermann

It is a month or two off, you know it will be a gentle death, as gradual or short as you like. You have time to get used to the idea, time to gather special people around if you wish, … Continue reading →

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Possible links: POST and compassion?

Posted on November 7, 2013 by dgermann

What are the possible links between POST and a compassionate community? :- Doug.

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Where is love in POST?

Posted on November 6, 2013 by dgermann

Where is love in POST? Where is love in Conversation? Where is compassion? :- Doug.

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Looking forward to seeing my grandchildren

Posted on November 5, 2013 by dgermann

Looking forward to seeing my grandchildren this evening, telling stories, playing. Young life! Possibilities and potential! :- Doug.

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Grandchildren: accepting and challenging them

Posted on November 4, 2013 by dgermann

To love your grandchildren is to accept them and to challenge them. One without the other is insipid and unloving. :- Doug.

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