Neediness in a conversation is as much of a gift as that by a know-it-all. The commerce is in information through ideas through creativity to real wisdom, and each of these opens the doors to meaningful exchange. It might be … Continue reading →

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simpler times

Posted on September 19, 2013 by dgermann

Today we are living the simpler times which our grandchildren will mourn. :- Doug.

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Given a clear path….

Posted on September 11, 2013 by dgermann

Given a clear path (and that does not mean laying out a map; rather getting obstacles out of the way) a person dying can do the things he or she must do, for example, Byock’s tasks of dying persons. :- … Continue reading →

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We cannot solve life

Posted on September 10, 2013 by dgermann

We know that we cannot solve life We can only predict the probabilities And choose :- Doug.

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We need not build bridges

Posted on September 8, 2013 by dgermann

We need not build bridges from human to human we already have gossamer we see, we hear, we touch we are touched :- Doug.

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For lawyers, doctors…and people with families

Posted on September 7, 2013 by dgermann

It’s only difficult the first time. Recently I realized that I don’t have any trouble getting my clients to talk about end of life decision making. Why? I think it is because I am serious about the topic, give it … Continue reading →

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the family of life goes on

Posted on September 4, 2013 by dgermann

Babies are born, grow, die the family of life goes on safety and security —endurance is in change & movement & growth :- Doug.

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The most inopportune times!

Posted on September 1, 2013 by dgermann

We joke that Life is what happens when you are making other plans, Prepare to be surprised, Whatever happens is the only thing that could. We are surprised to find we are loved. Geniuses are the ones who surprise us. … Continue reading →

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In elder caring, things move quickly

Posted on August 30, 2013 by dgermann

In elder caring, things move quickly. More quickly than you would expect. Client is in the nursing home, and the nursing home is saying he is “plateauing:” they need to stop therapy and make the family private pay. Medicare will … Continue reading →

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Where you stand affects what you see

Posted on August 29, 2013 by dgermann

Where you stand affects what you see. :- Doug.

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Converse now

Posted on August 24, 2013 by dgermann

Converse Now. :- Doug.

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more ways

Posted on August 23, 2013 by dgermann

Here there is nothing wrong Every here There are always more ways :- Doug.

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Invent possibility

Posted on August 22, 2013 by dgermann

Invent possibility. :- Doug.

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The arc of our lives is long

Posted on August 21, 2013 by dgermann

The arc of our lives is long. At both ends it bends toward earthy rhythms. At these ends others fulfill themselves caring for us. Our loving can be found in letting them. It’s not If but When we will slow … Continue reading →

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