Category Archives: Death and living while dying
in the telling Told
How we hold the conversation about living while we’re dying tells about us How we invite the conversation tells about us Where we don’t go The stories we tell The stories we won’t have All these our story in the … Continue reading →
Que sera, sera?
Why do we have battles with cancer or whatever is going to take us? Why do we insist on fighting our bodies what remains of our living? Did we ever own que sera, sera? :- Doug.
Why do you want to live?
Why do you want to live? Meaning: For what purpose? With whom? What gives those few days meaning? Their mere number? The people and doings in them? :- Doug.
knowledge of medicine, tender, tough?
What characteristics would you want in someone making big medical decisions for you: good head, good heart, imagination, knowledge of medicine, tender, tough? :- Doug.
Would you focus on technology?
If you were approaching death, would you focus on quality of life, or on the technology of medicine? :- Doug.
Fake funeral notices
Friends– The FTC has issued an alert about fake funeral notices. You get an email with something like “funeral notification” in the subject line. It may look like it came from a legitimate funeral home. It invites you to click … Continue reading →
Why do we want our family around when we’re dying?
Why do those of us who want this Want our family around when we’re dying? Could it be because we want One last chance To find our strength in our vulnerable intimacy? To share our highest selves in our deepest … Continue reading →
Why a game?
Why a game? To get us to open up; get us thinking about dying; keep fun in it all; get us thinking more deeply about conversing with our families. :- Doug.
Fade into all your playmates
Give your self Every day To those with whom you play To those you’d invite to play To the playing Then when you’re having most fun Some day You’ll be lucky enough To fade into all your playmates :- Doug.
When I die
When I die To myself Free, I fly Dying before I die Flying before I fly Into the wind, leap! :- Doug.
Rediscover, redefine
Rediscover, redefine Your living, playful path But larger than that, remember Your birth is your terminal condition So rediscover, redefine Your dying path Fill it, empty it Paint it with colors subtle Dance it with steps nuanced :- Doug.
Questions we can ask our children to start the conversation
Questions we can ask our children to start the conversation: Do you remember when X died? What did you think of the decisions made? How would you like to be treated then? To what age would you like to live? … Continue reading →
How shall doctors learn the EOL conversation?
A study from the University of Washington and the Medical University of South Carolina revealed that when interns talked to patients about end of life matters found: 1. There was no difference in end of life care; and 2. Patients … Continue reading →
5 Ds for your Living Will, Health Care POA
Charlie Sabatino, in Questions and Answers submitted September 23, 2013 to the US Dept of Health and Human Services, gives Five Ds for when you should look over your existing Living Will and Health Care POA: Decade passes; Death of … Continue reading →
and yet there is this necessity….
Friends– A quote you may enjoy: We may have no wish to grow up, to grow old, to become the senior citizens, the elders of the tribe, and yet there is this law that bears us forward continuously in time. … Continue reading →
When I’m dying…?
What do I want to hear, see, feel when I’m dying? :- Doug.
A journey we make together
A journey we make together Dad is dying The dialysis is not doing any good Dad is fighting dying but getting tired Mom and daughter try to ask “the question” Maybe we can get the doctor To start the conversation … Continue reading →