Category Archives: Conversation

A memory box

Posted on June 4, 2012 by dgermann

A memory box can be a way to start the conversation: here are some pictures, some ribbons, some pressed flowers; here are some documents; here is what I want…. :- Doug.

Posted in Conversation, Death and living while dying, Emergency/Crisis Medical | Leave a comment

Say you have a family with a medical crisis. Consider the scenarios that could happen here. Consider more than one. There are always more than one good choice. Open some conversation, engage them in what is possible, not just now, … Continue reading →

Posted in Conversation, Death and living while dying, Healing and Wholeness | Leave a comment

The question that heals:

Posted on May 28, 2012 by dgermann

What are your areas of discomfort? “What ails thee?” This is the question that heals. :- Doug.

Posted in Conversation, Healing and Wholeness | Leave a comment

“They know what I want.”

Posted on May 28, 2012 by dgermann

You cannot know what you want until you meet it in conversation. Here you discover and form. “They know what I want” can be avoidance of the questions. :- Doug.

Posted in Conversation, Death and living while dying, Emergency/Crisis Medical | Leave a comment

If you think you might die someday….

Posted on May 27, 2012 by dgermann

If you think you might die some day, what are you willing to do to make that better for your children and grandchildren? When? :- Doug.

Posted in Conversation, Death and living while dying | Leave a comment

Slow the rhythms

Posted on May 27, 2012 by dgermann

What are the most health stimulating, wholeness inducing rhythms we can employ in elder caring lawyering? Slow the rhythms, open: allowing for all voices to be heard, from piccolo to bassoon, from kettle drum to marimba, from plaintive violin to … Continue reading →

Posted in Aging, Conversation, Eldering | Leave a comment

When we are dying, how can we help our family?

Posted on May 25, 2012 by dgermann

When we are dying, what can we do to help our family? What does my death teach them? My life? How profound can we be for them? :- Doug.

Posted in Conversation, Death and living while dying, Eldering | Leave a comment

To speak of a right to die is silly

Posted on May 24, 2012 by dgermann

To speak of a right to die is silly—as if we were not all going to die. The right we want is the right to the kind of death we want—gentle, noticed, felt. :- Doug.

Posted in Conversation, Death and living while dying | Leave a comment

What’s possible?

Posted on May 23, 2012 by dgermann

How can I die the death I want if I don’t know what’s possible? :- Doug.

Posted in Conversation, Death and living while dying | Leave a comment

A right to our own deaths

Posted on May 22, 2012 by dgermann

We should have a right to our own deaths. Yet we are stealing it from one another, throwing it under our wheels, or simply not knowing how to give it to one another. :- Doug.

Posted in Conversation, Death and living while dying | Leave a comment

Purely medical?

Posted on May 21, 2012 by dgermann

Are the end of life decisions purely medical? :- Doug.

Posted in Conversation, Death and living while dying | Leave a comment

What are the markers?

Posted on May 20, 2012 by dgermann

What are the markers to know the end of life decisions are coming? :- Doug.

Posted in Conversation, Death and living while dying | Leave a comment

Vending machine picture of law

Posted on May 14, 2012 by dgermann

Many times we have a vending machine picture of law: put in a coin, out comes a certain result, predictably. Time by time we find we are in a flowing stream with 10,000 variables floating past, each can touch us, … Continue reading →

Posted in Aging, Caring, Conversation, Death and living while dying, Dreams, Eldering, Emergency/Crisis Medical, Estates: Administration & Probate, Family, Grieving, Healing and Wholeness, Long-Term Care and nursing homes, Powers of Attorney, Trusts and Trusting, Wills | Leave a comment

When one of us is aging….

Posted on May 12, 2012 by dgermann

When one of us is aging our only options are to respond with love or fear. Anything not love is fear. :- Doug.

Posted in Aging, Conversation, Family, Healing and Wholeness | Leave a comment

What questions could this family ask?

Posted on May 8, 2012 by dgermann

What questions could this family ask which would start us on a game of hide and seek? :- Doug.

Posted in Aging, Conversation, Family | Leave a comment

Thinking clearly with our hearts.

Posted on May 6, 2012 by dgermann

Thinking clearly with our hearts. :- Doug.

Posted in Conversation, Eldering, Healing and Wholeness | Leave a comment

Blessing are here

Posted on May 4, 2012 by dgermann

One of the most pernicious things we do in this society is to act as if we are separate from others, especially from our family and friends. They benefit from us, and we from them. We should not withdraw, fearing … Continue reading →

Posted in Conversation, Family, Long-Term Care and nursing homes | Leave a comment