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On the boat dock watching the sun

People need this conversation about living well our last chapter. They need to realize that as Jerry Walthall said, some of us want to die on the boat dock watching the sun and drinking a beer with our dog. I’d … Continue reading

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A doing with

Care is a thing done to a person; caring is a doing with a whole family. :- Doug.

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Gathering, loosening

When we are born there is a gathering of the stuff of the all just here just here So when we die there is a loosening just here just for now :- Doug.

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Do you have a deathbed story?

Do you have a deathbed story? :- Doug.

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Do you want to go fighting or gently?

Do you want to go fighting or gently? :- Doug.

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Start the melting

As I look around this people, I see the salt of the earth. Today, the world about us is icy: together you can start the melting. :- Doug.

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The crisis you expected is not the crisis you get.

The crisis you expected is not the crisis you get. :- Doug.

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First, live well together….

First, live well together; second, see how the money parts can serve your living. :- Doug.

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A thousand right ways to converse….

There are a thousand right ways to converse, a thousand right ways to love! :- Doug.

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No How only Do

For deepening of conversation Is no how only do :- Doug.

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There is more here.

There is more here. :- Doug.

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Pain I can stand:

Pain I can stand: what I want to avoid is suffering. So you may love me well it is suffering I must for you define. :- Doug.

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Sometimes we do not feel like conversing….

Sometimes we do not feel like conversing. Sometimes nothing comes to mind. In these cases go to our early training—to answer questions, always to answer questions of our teachers and parents. And deeper into our unconscious: relate stories. These prime … Continue reading

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No one right way to do conversation

There is no one right way to do the conversation: there are a thousand right ways. & we need to hear from our fellows—you!—we are doing it aright. :- Doug.

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As much vision and depth….

Bring as much vision and depth to the conversation as you can muster. :- Doug.

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Far enough

Far enough To say goodbye Farewell :- Doug.

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To get to conversation:

To get to conversation, we must move into the indescribable, by ineffable means. :- Doug.

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