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What do we mean by “burden?”

Posted on November 3, 2012 by dgermann

What do we mean by “burden?” Can we put a picture to it? Do we mean divorcing ourselves from our children’s lives? Ripping ourselves out like weeds from the garden? :- Doug.

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The path to eldering

Posted on November 2, 2012 by dgermann

The path to eldering to becoming ever more human is to empty ourselves of our selves :- Doug.

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There is a mystery at each end of life.

Posted on November 1, 2012 by dgermann

There is a mystery at each end of life. :- Doug.

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What is the most fun you can have dying?

Posted on October 31, 2012 by dgermann

What is the most fun you can have dying? :- Doug.

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Right living in your last days?

Posted on October 30, 2012 by dgermann

What is right living in your last days? :- Doug.

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How can they happen reliably?

Posted on October 29, 2012 by dgermann

How can we help the conversations happen reliably, involving as many of the group of care givers (of whatever profession), family and our living person? :- Doug.

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Nurture us:

Posted on October 28, 2012 by dgermann

End of life conversations can nurture us. :- Doug.

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You deserve a chance:

Posted on October 27, 2012 by dgermann

You deserve a chance. A chance to live as you want. :- Doug.

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Living our last

Posted on October 26, 2012 by dgermann

We’re not talking about death, but about living our last. :- Doug.

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Words of higher value

Posted on October 25, 2012 by dgermann

Our words are of higher value When used sparingly :- Doug.

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Conversation is not about simply dragging out what’s inside you. It is about shaping it. It is about discovering it. It is about co-creating it. I had not thought about dying on the boat dock till my friend Jerry voiced … Continue reading →

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Living our fullest, dying

Posted on October 23, 2012 by dgermann

What would it mean to you to be living to your fullest—on your death bed? :- Doug.

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The work of eldering

Posted on October 22, 2012 by dgermann

The work of life, particularly eldering, is the dissolution of ego. As we get older, as we become parents, as we become more mature, we see less and less sense in winning arguments, getting our way, controlling things. As I … Continue reading →

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“Observation status”

Posted on October 21, 2012 by dgermann

“First, do no harm.” Yet with “observation status” you are doing harm: to the sick, the frail, our elders. :- Doug.

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No professional time for this conversation?

Posted on October 20, 2012 by dgermann

Is it really true there is, for lawyer, for doctor, no time for the end of life conversation? Can we say “This is on me”? Do we have to make every moment pay? Can we make this conversation pay? :- … Continue reading →

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How can we attend a friend who is dying?

Posted on October 13, 2012 by dgermann

How can we as Friends attend a Friend who is dying? As we are dying? :- Doug.

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As actor withdraws from scene

Posted on October 12, 2012 by dgermann

As actor withdraws from scene As scenes roll on As this story told is but a part of the stories of each of the actors of the stories of each spectator & friend So now I withdraw :- Doug.

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