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Have you witnessed…?

Have you witnessed someone dying? How has that influenced your picture of how you want to die? :- Doug.

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More folded?

How can we be more folded into one another’s lives? :- Doug.

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In dying why focus on family?

When someone is dying, why focus on the family? The heart of all of them is dying. :- Doug.

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choose to not ever be elderly

Each can choose to not ever be elderly; better, each can choose to be an Elder of the Tribe. :- Doug.

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Helping families coalesce

We are helping families coalesce. :- Doug.

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Provoking caring conversations?

How shall we provoke and disturb people into caring conversations? Collect stories of how people were made to die in suffering. :- Doug.

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My job is to shake up

My job is to shake up a bit those folks under my care to get them to do good for their family, their community, and themselves. :- Doug.

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We cannot plan for the future

We cannot plan for the future —Unknowable as it is— We can notice its aroma Scan into the morning mist Dress for the weather :- Doug.

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Stand in for theirs

Contribute also your curiosity and courage—your wings and heart to stand in for theirs when necessary. :- Doug.

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The gift of one another

Open hand The gift of one another Open heart The gift of one another Lean into our circle As human as you can Offer and accept our highest The gift of one another :- Doug.

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What is the pattern of our family?

What is the pattern of our family? :- Doug.

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Medicine is

Medicine is a friend touching your hand in the hospital, a doctor kindly telling you it is OK to say good-bye to your husband, another doctor saying people only die because I do not know enough to keep them alive. … Continue reading

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A precious resource

In our society we have equated elderly with infirmity, in-valid-ity. Yet other times and cultures have learned this is a time of rich harvest and that elders are a precious resource. :- Doug.

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Don’t make me fight

Don’t make me fight when I don’t want to anymore. :- Doug.

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The velocity of our lives

We can know velocity of our lives and our financial position and our direction, but at most two at a given time: the third will be undefinable. :- Doug.

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Living until we die?

How then shall we live until we die? How shall we die as we live? Does dying have to be a separate thing, even with its mystery? :- Doug.

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It is up to us as well

How will we know when it’s time to say goodbye? Because it is up to us as well. We know it is up to us because we have seen people stay around for a holiday or a grandchild’s wedding, or … Continue reading

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