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Elder Caring Lawyer

strength in long conferences

Posted on January 5, 2015 by dgermann

My strength is the long conference…so that we can arrive at more workable options. :- Doug.

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“I want this one”

Posted on January 4, 2015 by dgermann

If God has indicated “I want this one,” what is the purpose of our actively fighting the summons? :- Doug.

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Morally wrong to lengthen life?

Posted on January 4, 2015 by dgermann

If it is wrong morally to shorten life, is it as wrong to lengthen? Is it wrong morally to do inadvertent violence to one dying or to his or her family? :- Doug.

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In probate, I am getting your son or daughter a license from a judge to exercise the court’s authority over your finances to settle them and make them final and complete. There are versions with and without close supervision. But … Continue reading →

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“Do everything”

Posted on January 3, 2015 by dgermann

Let me say to you, sir or ma’am this thing that you don’t like the beeps and bustle all about the groans all within knowing not what we mean when on and on we say “do everything” the way the … Continue reading →

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Everything–O!

Posted on January 2, 2015 by dgermann

Today we have a place to Breathe for you Eat for you & Keep you safely Medicated —Everything you’d ever Want—O my! :- Doug.

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There is no natural reluctance

Posted on January 2, 2015 by dgermann

There is no natural reluctance To converse of death and dying ‘Tis the work of culture—ours :- Doug.

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Caring is action

Posted on January 1, 2015 by dgermann

Caring is action; care is done to a thing. Caring is also shared, moves among us. :- Doug.

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meaning in completion

Posted on January 1, 2015 by dgermann

If the meaning of life is life, then how much is in the completion of it? :- Doug.

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can deny our loved ones a gentle easy death

Posted on December 31, 2014 by dgermann

With the long tail illnesses we now have, we may not be able to choose our own deaths, but we certainly can deny our loved ones a gentle easy death. We subject them to hours and days of suffering and … Continue reading →

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Crisis medical

Posted on December 31, 2014 by dgermann

Crisis medical sounds like a good term instead of emergency medical. Its root meaning is life and death decision point, and its connotation is people running around under emotional pressure and distress to do or not do something. So it … Continue reading →

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Care and Caring

Posted on December 30, 2014 by dgermann

Care: technically proficient but detached. Caring: find what the client values and seeking engagement in bringing that to fruition. :- Doug.

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A client who does not want to be helped

Posted on December 30, 2014 by dgermann

Helping a client who does not want to be helped, or who is otherwise stubborn? This approach is useful, I think, as a first try: 1. Foremost, do not try to sell any outcome or value; 2. Move toward specific … Continue reading →

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While we’re dying

Posted on December 30, 2014 by dgermann

You’re dying. I’m dying. There, we have said it. We are all dying. Some sooner than others. It is a matter of degree, of timing. It is a sure thing. Let us be kind to one another. So let’s talk … Continue reading →

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Uncertain

Posted on December 29, 2014 by dgermann

The more we can do to help a disease, the more uncertain the timing. As diseases move from acute to chronic, the less we know when our end is coming. :- Doug.

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the long conference

Posted on December 29, 2014 by dgermann

My forte is the long conference. It is important to me to know people, to absorb one another. :- Doug.

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Serving other attorneys?

Posted on December 28, 2014 by dgermann

How can we serve other attorneys in Medicaid issues? :- Doug.

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