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We can own this issue

Posted on December 28, 2014 by dgermann

We can own this issue. We can engage medicine in the conversation. We can make it easier for the doctors to have the conversation. :- Doug.

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As if this were the day?

Posted on December 27, 2014 by dgermann

The question of living while we’re dying is one of living with uncertainty in the extreme. We don’t know what the next test or procedure will produce, but can we not live and love as if this were the day … Continue reading →

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Unless we so clench our teeth

Posted on December 27, 2014 by dgermann

There is nothing wrong with looking for minuscule possibilities of extending life or regaining health. Unless we so clench our teeth we do not live our lives now as fully as ever we can. :- Doug.

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full life, when?

Posted on December 26, 2014 by dgermann

Ordinary medicine has its eyes on a someday far horizon; hospice on right now. Do you want to live a full life, when? :- Doug.

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Wait!

Posted on December 26, 2014 by dgermann

Wait! You don’t have to give it all away to pay for nursing home. :- Doug.

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Even that

Posted on December 25, 2014 by dgermann

Even that Let go :- Doug.

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How to love in a nursing home?

Posted on December 25, 2014 by dgermann

How to love in a nursing home? How do we bring life to Mom? A good day to Dad? :- Doug.

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going where we are helpless

Posted on December 24, 2014 by dgermann

Our best humanity is found in going where we are helpless. :- Doug.

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Cure, salve, presence:

Posted on December 24, 2014 by dgermann

Cure, salve, presence: what we can do for one another. Any one can heal. :- Doug.

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All the wind–

Posted on December 23, 2014 by dgermann

All the wind— It’s a great ventilating day All the clouds— The day is working us All the sun— The living day is generating, generating :- Doug.

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Work

Posted on December 23, 2014 by dgermann

Conversation is work. :- Doug.

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I am worried

Posted on December 23, 2014 by dgermann

I am worried. Words that fit for a client for whom I have had a call this morning. I am worried she is in extremis. These words both fit and are fit for our conference. I think from what I … Continue reading →

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Choice of what kind of death

Posted on December 23, 2014 by dgermann

We now have the choice of what kind of death we want, although we haven’t yet realized it. This fact that there are few acute diseases anymore, that the trajectory is a long tail, gives us these choices. But we … Continue reading →

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We grow weary

Posted on December 22, 2014 by dgermann

A new picture this morning about the dying process: not so much downhill as uphill: the road grows steeper as we go, and requires more energy, more traction, and we cannot. This seems more hopeful for some reason, more gentle, … Continue reading →

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nuances

Posted on December 22, 2014 by dgermann

Conversation is not in the Yeses and Noes, but also in the nuances of colors. :- Doug.

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Rhymes not needed, verse not needed:

Posted on December 22, 2014 by dgermann

Poetry means expressing the person, and the person is always in community, always a community. Poetry means the something more, the something larger. Poetry includes a rolling up of sleeves and setting to work. It means beauty, truth, goodness. It … Continue reading →

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How will we know?

Posted on December 21, 2014 by dgermann

How will we know when to stop fighting for time and start meaningful living? :- Doug.

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