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Future can rewrite past, soft brush

Posted on January 12, 2015 by dgermann

Healing reframes whole lives. Future can rewrite past, we can use a soft brush, a new color. :- Doug.

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Attention the lens

Posted on January 12, 2015 by dgermann

Attention may be the lens that shows us grief, pain, hate, and love, wholeness, inclusion. :- Doug.

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If I can’t remember the word

Posted on January 12, 2015 by dgermann

If I can’t remember the word, I will be still. Not for the word to come, but for what is more profound. :- Doug.

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What we lack in a cared-for world:

Posted on January 11, 2015 by dgermann

What we lack in a cared-for world is creativity: our need to give, to be needed or at least of worth, to love. :- Doug.

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The gaps in our speech—even aphasias—can be invitations to come rest in silence…. What if precisely then we stopped to listen? Both of us? There is a rhythm to weather, the low pressure drawing wind out of the high pressure, … Continue reading →

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Honor our wounds

Posted on January 10, 2015 by dgermann

When we honor our wounds, we allow them to heal. :- Doug.

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Honor the time of dying

Posted on January 10, 2015 by dgermann

Honor the time of dying. Recoil not. Perhaps there is learning, even beauty here. Honor the time of dying. :- Doug.

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Remembering how

Posted on January 9, 2015 by dgermann

Remembering how Inventing how At times that’s why we converse How to what? Die Be present for this one dying Be present for this one living :- Doug.

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Yes, this is painful

Posted on January 9, 2015 by dgermann

Yes, this is painful Yes, this is hard Yes, we can do it :- Doug.

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inexorably to healing

Posted on January 8, 2015 by dgermann

Hearing leads inexorably to healing. :- Doug.

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Remember your dying

Posted on January 8, 2015 by dgermann

Remember your dying. :- Doug.

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safe from the crisis

Posted on January 7, 2015 by dgermann

The conversations I invite take place safe from the crisis. Yet they prepare us for the crisis. In a sense they are memento mori (remember dying): memento viventium (remember living) in the face of memento mori. Not so we have … Continue reading →

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Caring welcomes; care does to

Posted on January 7, 2015 by dgermann

Caring welcomes; care does to. :- Doug.

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The need to hate each other

Posted on January 6, 2015 by dgermann

Like husbands and wives, even sometimes siblings, we need to not like each other very much, to hate each other, in order to get to owning our love of one another. :- Doug.

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Growth of a different sort?

Posted on January 6, 2015 by dgermann

As we get older our species Draws ever smaller circles Community becomes friends Becomes family—reversing Our course of younger years Growth of a different sort? Growth work that especially The dying and the demented do :- Doug.

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Working on Wills

Posted on January 6, 2015 by dgermann

I work on people’s wills—their will to care well for one another in and out of nursing homes, in end of life, in families. :- Doug.

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Family conferences

Posted on January 5, 2015 by dgermann

In family conferences conclude by going around the table giving each person 60 seconds to say what our direction ought to be. :- Doug.

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