Category Archives: Healing and Wholeness

Life softens

Life softens. For years we think we win at life by hardening. Then comes our untying. :- Doug.

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On losing memory

On losing memory: it can be a good thing when it would have kept you stuck in misery (If only I hadn’t gotten sick), or when it would have consigned you to relive bad times, or when it would have … Continue reading

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If you wish

The 17 Things are surface things, physical for the most part. But some of them do touch the heart. They allow you, if you wish, to go deeper, more intimate, with those you love. If you wish. :- Doug.

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Life is a train ride

Life is a train ride—we board in anticipation, spend time settling in, do the work during the ride, the work of waiting, then in the last miles we are active preparing to arrive and disembark. :- Doug.

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Have your own guess?

Have your own guess about the purpose of your life? :- Doug.

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Last grain through

What essence does it hold this last grain through your hourglass? :- Doug.

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Used well?

Have you been used well by life? :- Doug.

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Beauty observed

The beauty observed and hard facts reported are all of a piece :- Doug.

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Intriguing, confusing, precious

These intriguing, confusing, precious elder years. :- Doug.

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The music

The music of old :- Doug.

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Life is

You’re not in control; life is in control. :- Doug.

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Growing

Old age is growing. Hear. :- Doug.

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Aging will not harm us

Aging will not harm us. :- Doug.

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Does spirituality deepen with age?

Vaillant’s conclusion that spirituality does not deepen with age is probably partially right and partially wrong. Again there is a factor of choice. I was spiritual in my single digit years, religious in my teens and twenties. Then in my … Continue reading

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Bernie says playfulness

What is the attitude of play? The stance? How does a curmudgeon or a non-curmudgeon develop play and fun? Are there elements or steps to take? Or is it simply in the genes? Playfulness, says Bernie DeKoven. He is on … Continue reading

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A friend is dying

A friend who has stage 4 cancer is dying. He has just provided the grandchildren a special swing in a park. He has also told me that he feels he is getting thinner and thinner, blending with the wind. This … Continue reading

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Energy depleted

Exploration, asking questions, from a glimpse takes energy. If you don’t have it, the finger pointing is not followed, perhaps not even seen. So when you are ill to the extent that your energy is depleted, it affects your muse, … Continue reading

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