Category Archives: Long-Term Care and nursing homes
With Mom: we are all in the nursing home.
With Mom: we are all in the nursing home. :- Doug.
Blessing are here
One of the most pernicious things we do in this society is to act as if we are separate from others, especially from our family and friends. They benefit from us, and we from them. We should not withdraw, fearing … Continue reading
Ask for bigger eyes
It is difficult in family long term care settings to see any larger truth, let alone make sense of it. What to do when we are blind? Maybe we can ask of one another: What else do you notice? What … Continue reading
Untangling the emotions
Yesterday I met with two sisters to converse about care for Mom. The meeting grew heated; one was dog tired. The sisters have a need to continue as family. Both need to find a way to deal with their emotions. … Continue reading
Don’t count on the VA….
Don’t count on the Veteran’s Administration or even Medicaid for all your Long-Term Care. You still need love: a kind touch, a cold wash cloth. :- Doug.
Given Mom’s dementia or decline….
Given this—Dad’s dementia or Mom’s decline—how can we fit together, now? What are our special gifts, needs, fears and visions, and what’s possible with us? :- Doug.
Freeing elders from prison….
We have to think more broadly—we have to free our elders from the prisons we put them in. We need to return them to home and family—even if we have to create new forms of home and family. :- Doug.
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Long-term care is not about who pays but how we choose to live.
Long-term care is not about who pays but how we choose to live. :- Doug.
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Curing, healing, dementia, play
Though I cannot cure you, I can help heal you, restore you to play. Can those with dementia play? Do we have the love to play with them? To learn from them? :- Doug.
Alzheimer’s: modern Magellans?
“Right up to the last minute,” Joelle said to me “the soul has work to do” Weeks later her words lead me to ask What if it were more opening than disease this Alzheimer’s & these our tribe’s explorers? What … Continue reading
In this family together
We are in this family and in this setting together. Only together do we move on. Even if some of us pull away and stop participating, the whole of us must adjust and find a way forward. We might be … Continue reading
The art of the continually unfolding possible
In a law suit our lawyer said, “It’s only about the money.” But now as I consider, life is about What’s possible now? Law is the art of the possible. The art of the continually unfolding possible. :- Doug.
More than just get you on Medicaid
The work is more than just to get you on Medicaid or some other discreet task; the work is to keep your family in play, your life ongoing. :- Doug.
elder warehousing
Let’s decry elder warehousing but daily the invitation let’s celebrate! :- Doug.