What do you want if you are dying? Which of the senses are most important to you—do you see what I am saying, hear me, are you touched by what is going on? What do you smell, can you taste … Continue reading →

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I get to openly love

Posted on October 6, 2015 by dgermann

Elder caring is the only field of law where I get to openly love my clients. :- Doug.

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The smell of baking cookies

Posted on October 5, 2015 by dgermann

At end of life what’s most meaningful is what carries most life—it often revolves around creature comforts. Things like the smell of baking cookies, the touch of a gentle person, someone lying next to you, the kiss of your dog, … Continue reading →

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Leaky, fuzzy family

Posted on September 30, 2015 by dgermann

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What are the meaningful things of your life?

Posted on September 21, 2015 by dgermann

What are the meaningful things of your life? Could you do them in your last weeks? What sort of care would allow you to do them, have them, as the light of this world fades for you? :- Doug.

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context

Posted on September 20, 2015 by dgermann

We are the context the interweaving of one another :- Doug.

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What right do your Mom and Dad have

Posted on September 18, 2015 by dgermann

What right do your Mom and Dad have to be supported in their later years? What is the source of that right? :- Doug.

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What is conversation?

Posted on September 17, 2015 by dgermann

What is conversation Light Love Music Participation? :- Doug.

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Dear young grandchild of mine:

Posted on September 15, 2015 by dgermann

Dear young grandchild of mine, what do you see when you watch yourself? How do you move through life—quickly, questioningly, thoughtfully? :- Doug.

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Neighborhood playground asks

Posted on September 9, 2015 by dgermann

A neighborhood playground asks the question: what marks the edge of “home?” :- Doug.

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My big test

Posted on September 7, 2015 by dgermann

My big test seems to be the death of my parents. The lesson was indeed subtle and fine. I have been trying to get it out in the open, poking holes in the grey cloth that covers it and me, … Continue reading →

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The profound times

Posted on August 20, 2015 by dgermann

The profound times of our lives together this is where I work back and forth we pass our wisdom, poetry, and love staying lively in the nursing home living our dying those who will cry sharing laughter in these nows … Continue reading →

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a family affair

Posted on August 16, 2015 by dgermann

Life is a family affair. Death must be too. :- Doug.

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“They know that I love them”

Posted on August 15, 2015 by dgermann

“They know that I love them,” and “They know what I want if I get sick” are code for “I am afraid to talk about it.” :- Doug.

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