Monthly Archives: May 2017
dementia-land
To converse with someone in dementia-land, get past your frustration. Be with this one, now, here—affirm them. Be here. Be kind. Hear. :- Doug.
to lead out
Eldering has often been storying around because humans innately know the power of story to lead out among us :- Doug.
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hearing a life
The task of eldering at least in part is not telling a message, rather hearing a life. :- Doug.
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In illness we are stuck
In illness we as visitor, as sufferer, are stuck in the pain and againstness. How might we free ourselves? The very how might be in the act of traveling elsewhere. Yesterday always fades in today’s new thing. :- Doug.
Can you build and heal?
Can you build and heal? You can, through your conversations, in whatever form. You can become part of their stories, immersed. :- Doug.
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Invent the practice
Let us together invent the practice of eldering. :- Doug.
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Responsibility for their own caring
Elders take responsibility, not for outcomes, rather for their own caring for the children, for the others. :- Doug.
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Together imagine acts
Let us together imagine acts of eldering. :- Doug.
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Inciting a decent society
If we intend to be human we ought to open to hearing what is difficult to hear. Do we have the imagination to take into ourselves the experiences of another? Is this something an elder can learn for the rest … Continue reading
Fear of the nursing home
Fear of the nursing home is a failure of imagination. :- Doug.
To sing his or her life
Here’s an elder in a nursing home, or here’s one with dementia: What could it mean to hear this one encouraged to tell or sing his or her life? :- Doug.
Can it be fulfilling?
Can living with a nursing home be fulfilling? :- Doug.
What has your life taught you?
What has your life taught you about caring for another and about accepting care? Whom have you met and what have they taught you about being an elder, about the role of the elder in the family and community? :- … Continue reading
Transformation of aging
Eldering is the transformation of aging to something larger. :- Doug.
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