Monthly Archives: December 2014

can deny our loved ones a gentle easy death

With the long tail illnesses we now have, we may not be able to choose our own deaths, but we certainly can deny our loved ones a gentle easy death. We subject them to hours and days of suffering and … Continue reading

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Crisis medical

Crisis medical sounds like a good term instead of emergency medical. Its root meaning is life and death decision point, and its connotation is people running around under emotional pressure and distress to do or not do something. So it … Continue reading

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Care and Caring

Care: technically proficient but detached. Caring: find what the client values and seeking engagement in bringing that to fruition. :- Doug.

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A client who does not want to be helped

Helping a client who does not want to be helped, or who is otherwise stubborn? This approach is useful, I think, as a first try: 1. Foremost, do not try to sell any outcome or value; 2. Move toward specific … Continue reading

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While we’re dying

You’re dying. I’m dying. There, we have said it. We are all dying. Some sooner than others. It is a matter of degree, of timing. It is a sure thing. Let us be kind to one another. So let’s talk … Continue reading

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Uncertain

The more we can do to help a disease, the more uncertain the timing. As diseases move from acute to chronic, the less we know when our end is coming. :- Doug.

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the long conference

My forte is the long conference. It is important to me to know people, to absorb one another. :- Doug.

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Serving other attorneys?

How can we serve other attorneys in Medicaid issues? :- Doug.

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We can own this issue

We can own this issue. We can engage medicine in the conversation. We can make it easier for the doctors to have the conversation. :- Doug.

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As if this were the day?

The question of living while we’re dying is one of living with uncertainty in the extreme. We don’t know what the next test or procedure will produce, but can we not live and love as if this were the day … Continue reading

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Unless we so clench our teeth

There is nothing wrong with looking for minuscule possibilities of extending life or regaining health. Unless we so clench our teeth we do not live our lives now as fully as ever we can. :- Doug.

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full life, when?

Ordinary medicine has its eyes on a someday far horizon; hospice on right now. Do you want to live a full life, when? :- Doug.

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Wait!

Wait! You don’t have to give it all away to pay for nursing home. :- Doug.

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Even that

Even that Let go :- Doug.

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How to love in a nursing home?

How to love in a nursing home? How do we bring life to Mom? A good day to Dad? :- Doug.

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going where we are helpless

Our best humanity is found in going where we are helpless. :- Doug.

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Cure, salve, presence:

Cure, salve, presence: what we can do for one another. Any one can heal. :- Doug.

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