I converse. That is my work: engaging people in their world for good. Specifically for Mom and Dad facing difficulties thinking, getting along, staying healthy. :- Doug.

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Seeking an even larger view

Posted on September 26, 2014 by dgermann

I have felt best about my work when I sat with the man whose wife is in the nursing home and we pondered about how life changed in a stroke—literally—and how to respond to a daughter who is both in … Continue reading →

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The question working me these days

Posted on September 25, 2014 by dgermann

The question that is working me these days is this: what is the larger picture of my work in the world? There is a family view, and there is a societal view. Both are larger than my little how I … Continue reading →

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Engaging people, their world, for good

Posted on September 24, 2014 by dgermann

I converse. That is my work: engaging people in their world for good. Specifically for Mom and Dad facing difficulties thinking, getting along, staying healthy. :- Doug.

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Highest aspirations

Posted on September 23, 2014 by dgermann

I am after motivations, especially highest aspirations. How do you want to see your mother treated now? What would you do if you could? What do you think your mother wants now? :- Doug.

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You are affected by Mom’s health

Posted on September 22, 2014 by dgermann

Reflection might start with getting people to see how they are affected by Mom’s or Dad’s health, by admitting their own vulnerable confusion and overwhelm, and finding their own role in the matter. :- Doug.

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Helping Dad care for Mom

Posted on September 21, 2014 by dgermann

I am helping Dad care for Mom, and still be able to eat and live at home. But more, I am helping families come to terms with each other and with Mom’s new normal. In the community I am helping … Continue reading →

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I get to ask, “How?”

Posted on September 20, 2014 by dgermann

I get to ask, “How?” How do we care for Mom and Dad When thinking becomes difficult? Walking? Eating? Taking medicines? I get to ask this of families And of communities :- Doug.

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Getting to help

Posted on September 19, 2014 by dgermann

I get to help people in the crises of nursing home, long-term illness, and death. This is very fulfilling because I get to do much good. :- Doug.

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Getting Mom or Dad in the nursing home

Posted on September 18, 2014 by dgermann

I get to help people get Mom or Dad in the nursing home for good. I’ll let you reflect on what way I might have meant. :- Doug.

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Is not to prepare a Power of Attorney

Posted on September 17, 2014 by dgermann

To prepare a Power of Attorney Is not to only prepare a Power of Attorney It only takes an hour to prepare And then another hour to Explore it with you :- Doug.

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How is this affecting Mom?

Posted on September 16, 2014 by dgermann

Ask, How is this affecting Mom? Then, How is this affecting you? :- Doug.

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Unearthing shared perceptions

Posted on September 15, 2014 by dgermann

Unearthing shared perceptions might be a key. Leading toward wider perceptions of the world in which they find themselves. Look at the grey cloth, examine it, then look through it, eventually poke holes. :- Doug.

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No 200 year old people

Posted on September 14, 2014 by dgermann

The thrust/intention needs to be to find the commonalities among this family, and where they think they need to get, given that there are no 200 year old people out there. :- Doug.

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