Monthly Archives: February 2013

Knowing the name of our disease

We create our world out of language. Once we put a word to something, we have lifted up this something from the background, given it color and edges. This is why we are desperate to know the name of our … Continue reading

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We face what life brings us

We face what life brings us as it brings us together; we are new every moment and are able to create and mold life every moment. And there is only one life. :- Doug.

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We lawyers need to think about:

As lawyers, and especially together as lawyers, we need to think about what matters to our clients and their families. We cannot heal an individual in isolation: and make no mistake—we are healers: whole-makers. Our clients are pulling together the … Continue reading

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Trouble

Anticipation of trouble is more trouble than the trouble itself We’ll face what comes when it gets here :- Doug.

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I am responsible

I am responsible though I do not control I can create that which I will not direct Community, relatedness, us This is ever the way Love demands responsibility and starting Looks not to results Bringing a new life into the … Continue reading

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Birth & death ultimacies

Birth & death —our ultimate times— we can glimpse ultimacy glimpse is all we need to dissolve our other-wiseness :- Doug.

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I don’t have the answers

I don’t have the answers, but we together have better questions. :- Doug.

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I work on the spiritual end of life

I work on the spiritual end of life. :- Doug.

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Listen for the tune not the notes

Listen for the tune not the notes. Hear the story not the things to note. :- Doug.

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When I get older….

I think if I were older and unable to move around much, I would want to meet with a spiritual director and probably artists to work on my creativity and open my spirit. :- Doug.

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A good way to die: When is love appropriate?

There is a big difference between working to end life and allowing life and death to take its course without fighting it interminably and pigheadedly. People must be allowed to die their own ways, whether violently and with invasive and … Continue reading

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Do we care well in our farewells?

Do we care well in our farewells? :- Doug.

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Not often imparting new knowledge

I’m not often imparting new knowledge. Often I am calling attention to something we all can observe or act upon but usually miss. :- Doug.

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Not a technician

I am not a technician. I’m a human-in-conversation. :- Doug.

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Dying post-maturely

We have always faced the risk of dying prematurely—from heart attacks, road accidents, falls, animal attacks. But now we may live too long—with too much medical treatment, too much needless suffering from CPR, respirators, being strapped and tied to beds … Continue reading

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Take flowers.

Take Flowers: A friend of mine has a secret for getting good care for her uncle at the nursing home and hospital: she takes flowers and says “Thank you” to the staff who are helping her uncle. She takes cookies … Continue reading

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Take names.

Take Names: When you are advocating for your Dad at the nursing home or doctor’s office, get personal. Find out the names of the people who are providing care. Not to know whom to sue or complain about, but to … Continue reading

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