Monthly Archives: October 2012

What is the most fun you can have dying?

What is the most fun you can have dying? :- Doug.

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Right living in your last days?

What is right living in your last days? :- Doug.

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How can they happen reliably?

How can we help the conversations happen reliably, involving as many of the group of care givers (of whatever profession), family and our living person? :- Doug.

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Nurture us:

End of life conversations can nurture us. :- Doug.

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You deserve a chance:

You deserve a chance. A chance to live as you want. :- Doug.

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Living our last

We’re not talking about death, but about living our last. :- Doug.

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Words of higher value

Our words are of higher value When used sparingly :- Doug.

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Not simply dragging out

Conversation is not about simply dragging out what’s inside you. It is about shaping it. It is about discovering it. It is about co-creating it. I had not thought about dying on the boat dock till my friend Jerry voiced … Continue reading

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Living our fullest, dying

What would it mean to you to be living to your fullest—on your death bed? :- Doug.

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The work of eldering

The work of life, particularly eldering, is the dissolution of ego. As we get older, as we become parents, as we become more mature, we see less and less sense in winning arguments, getting our way, controlling things. As I … Continue reading

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“Observation status”

“First, do no harm.” Yet with “observation status” you are doing harm: to the sick, the frail, our elders. :- Doug.

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No professional time for this conversation?

Is it really true there is, for lawyer, for doctor, no time for the end of life conversation? Can we say “This is on me”? Do we have to make every moment pay? Can we make this conversation pay? :- … Continue reading

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How can we attend a friend who is dying?

How can we as Friends attend a Friend who is dying? As we are dying? :- Doug.

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As actor withdraws from scene

As actor withdraws from scene As scenes roll on As this story told is but a part of the stories of each of the actors of the stories of each spectator & friend So now I withdraw :- Doug.

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On the boat dock watching the sun

People need this conversation about living well our last chapter. They need to realize that as Jerry Walthall said, some of us want to die on the boat dock watching the sun and drinking a beer with our dog. I’d … Continue reading

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A doing with

Care is a thing done to a person; caring is a doing with a whole family. :- Doug.

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Gathering, loosening

When we are born there is a gathering of the stuff of the all just here just here So when we die there is a loosening just here just for now :- Doug.

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