Monthly Archives: May 2012

What does it mean to be a burden?

Posted on May 16, 2012 by dgermann

What about caring with you would be a burden? What does it mean to be a burden? Was it a burden to change your children’s diapers? :- Doug.

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Who can we be?

Posted on May 15, 2012 by dgermann

Dad’s getting older, maybe dying—who can we yet be together? :- Doug.

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Vending machine picture of law

Posted on May 14, 2012 by dgermann

Many times we have a vending machine picture of law: put in a coin, out comes a certain result, predictably. Time by time we find we are in a flowing stream with 10,000 variables floating past, each can touch us, … Continue reading →

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Elder caring is like running the East Race

Posted on May 13, 2012 by dgermann

Elder caring is like running the East Race. I do not know how it will come out. It is different each time. :- Doug.

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When one of us is aging….

Posted on May 12, 2012 by dgermann

When one of us is aging our only options are to respond with love or fear. Anything not love is fear. :- Doug.

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This family can….

Posted on May 11, 2012 by dgermann

This family can live and love into our future. Let’s get to work. :- Doug.

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What would you be willing to do?

Posted on May 10, 2012 by dgermann

What would you be willing to do to help your family come alive now? :- Doug. What would you be willing to do to help your family come alive now?

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How young are you?

Posted on May 9, 2012 by dgermann

How young are you? :- Doug.

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What questions could this family ask?

Posted on May 8, 2012 by dgermann

What questions could this family ask which would start us on a game of hide and seek? :- Doug.

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Working with caring people

Posted on May 7, 2012 by dgermann

I work with caring people some of whom are elders of our tribe :- Doug.

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Thinking clearly with our hearts.

Posted on May 6, 2012 by dgermann

Thinking clearly with our hearts. :- Doug.

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Elder life

Posted on May 5, 2012 by dgermann

Elder life is a question without an answer. :- Doug.

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Blessing are here

Posted on May 4, 2012 by dgermann

One of the most pernicious things we do in this society is to act as if we are separate from others, especially from our family and friends. They benefit from us, and we from them. We should not withdraw, fearing … Continue reading →

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Ask for bigger eyes

Posted on May 4, 2012 by dgermann

It is difficult in family long term care settings to see any larger truth, let alone make sense of it. What to do when we are blind? Maybe we can ask of one another: What else do you notice? What … Continue reading →

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profoundly, strategically, madly letting go in our family?

Posted on May 4, 2012 by dgermann

So how do we profoundly, strategically, madly let to in a family system? We get hung up over what without question we believe is true. It is not true. What is true? I do not know. You do not know. … Continue reading →

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Our maladies last longer

Posted on May 3, 2012 by dgermann

Our modern medicine has not made our maladies disappear; it has only made them last longer: made chronic what used to be acute. :- Doug.