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Monthly Archives: January 2012
I fell into a hole
I fell into a hole
For a project & on a mission
To get some wrenches
Striding through the door
My forward motion
—Turned straight down
Surprise, lost, unknowing
Words insufficiently strong
For my disorientation
My world, my purpose—disappeared
Scraping shin
Striking ribcage
Pain shooting from here from there
Not even time to ask What’s this?
My attention—wrenched—
In less than a trice
Only later was there time
To recall I’d opened
The hole to shut off the water
:- Doug.
Posted in Emergency/Crisis Medical, Poetry
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Crotchety is okety-fine
Crotchety is okety-fine
when conversing:
just stand clear of
our itty bitty egoity
keep to our universality!
:- Doug.
Posted in Conversation, Eldering, Family, Healing and Wholeness
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Don’t use these passwords!
Here are the 25 most (stupid) insecure passwords. http://www.ic3.gov/media/2011/111229.aspx
Don’t use these passwords!
:- Doug.
Posted in News
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Working on my compassion
I am working on my compassion.
:- Doug.
Posted in Caring, Healing and Wholeness
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Caring is compassion
Care can be a commercial transaction. Caring is compassion.
:- Doug.
Posted in Caring, Healing and Wholeness
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Caring who
Care is a word people use to say what they sell; Caring is a word I use to describe who I am.
:- Doug.
Posted in Caring
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Many ways to advocate
There are many ways to advocate. We can advocate by counseling.
:- Doug.
Posted in Caring, Eldering
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Doctors may become mere technicians
I’m hearing from my elder clients’ children that they cannot get a time to talk with the doctor about what is going on with their parent, what the prognosis might be, and what the best course of treatment ought to be. One client scheduled a time at the nursing home for a care planning session, and only the nursing staff will be attending. He was hoping to have the doctor there, too.
Doctors are in danger of relegating their profession to the role of technicians, to be consulted only when there is an unusual problem or when we need a prescription-writer. Day to day and month to month care plans are abdicated to the people who are there daily: nurses, social workers, and family. But wouldn’t doctors want to be part of this?
:- Doug.
Elders, doctors and consults
A few days ago I learned that doctors are in some settings expected to see 40 patients a day. What’s the math on 40 patients in a day?
Today I spoke with a couple of therapists about getting the doctor involved in elder care, specifically to give the family time for a consult and prognosis, and to take part in the quarterly plan of care meeting. One of them laughed at me and the other almost did. Doctors don’t do those things!
I continue to believe that doctors overwhelmingly have a heart for their patients, but the system demands they limit their minutes per patient. Who would want to become a doctor?
Maybe that is why doctors are easier for pharmaceutical companies to persuade than our prior generations of doctors were: what can you do to education patients for better self-health care or in therapeutic efforts and just plain ingenuity in a few minutes?
:- Doug.
There’s a pill for that
Far more than
“There’s an app for that”
Our medico-economic complex teaches
“There’s a pill for that”
“There’s a pill for every that”
:- Doug.
Posted in Aging, Long-Term Care, Poetry
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Divine are the snowflakes/…
Divine are the snowflakes
dancing, floating, flying
divine is each
each faces me and asks
do you see me?
:- Doug.
Posted in Conversation, Healing and Wholeness, Poetry
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Why we are frustrated with one another
We’re frustrated with one another and so we shout at “them.” We’re frustrated with one another because we have forgotten how to dialogue. We don’t know how to hear, how to meet.
:- Doug.
Posted in Conversation, Family
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Long-Term Care: mysterious words and ways and….
Long-term care mixes the mysterious words and ways of medicine with the arcane rules and regulations of bureaucrat and insurance giant, and presents you with choices, the consequences of which you cannot yet see. Yet there are people in these labyrinths who are warm and caring and will help you holding nothing back.
:- Doug.
Posted in Long-Term Care
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Work as inviting….
My work can be seen in terms of invite, free, call whole mmm.
:- Doug.