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- Four meanings of your life?
- The profession of people meeting well:
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- a warp and woof you cannot unweave
- Observation Status Fact Sheet
- The classical guides in dying
- Why does it matter?
- The end of life conversation is about justice–
- When settling in to tell a story to children
- We’re all amateurs
- While you’re yet living….
- Great quantities of unknown
- Less a technician am I than lover & hearer & fan
- What is the work people are doing dying?
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Monthly Archives: June 2011
Each of us privileged
to be touched by seven
one, grand, great before
one, grand, great after
so when we come to sense
we may elder
Eldering: do the things that the elders of the tribe do: loving, encouraging, seeing far, touching 7 generations.
Viki Kind, one of my favorite authors has a suggestion new on my list of ways to get the conversation started with Grandma, the conversation about emergency medical and end of life decisions. It really is simple and straightforward:
Get the family together and everybody talk about what they want. If the teens and their parents are talking about it, Granny probably won’t be able to help herself from jumping right in! Or at least we hope so!
Note also the Go Wish game cards–try the on-line version! I did.
It is a way to gather a lot of info that will make much easier the job of providing health care for you, as well as making settling your affairs.
Caution: keep it updated! My Mom had a list of all her assets that she updated every year at tax time…until about 4 years before she died. Everything was out of date and we had to search all over creation, with accountants and business friends, and various advisors, to find out what she had and no longer had.
PS: No endorsement of any agency is intended nor implied.
I counsel elders on eldering.
I help elders elder.
My work is making the world more hospitable for elders.
The Will you get from the Web is one size fits nobody. All you have to do is sign here. I ask more work of you.
Do you want a cheap Will or the right Will?
See? You ask lots of questions: that proves your life is not written in any form book. It is the questions and stories you need to tell that lead to the experience and counsel I have to share. The Will is only the product of our meeting.
Elders are not partial nor disabled but validly creative, growing worth and abilities new.
I am a Maslow of gerontology: not a dismal science of all that can go wrong but seeker of what grows.
A Good Will is an opening for an elder to make last gifts lasting.
Elders are not a problem, do not need solving. Elders are resource-full, growing, working for the good of the human tribe.
Caring is the heart freely given from one to another. Caring is not bought nor sold.