Category Archives: Healing and Wholeness

The higher work of the lawyer

The higher work of the lawyer is whole-making I’m a whole-maker So are You Let us see how this is so :- Doug.

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With a waiting….

Maybe you want to punctuate your conversations with a waiting…an opening of space for a larger meeting. :- Doug.

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And still we are not done

We germinate, we leaf, we vine, we flower! We set little green fruit, we grow round, we grow fat, we grow green and then red! We fall to the ground, spent, or we are food! And still we are not … Continue reading

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Ban “Do Everything”

Friends– A thoughtful piece, worth acting upon. When you want to tell the doctor to “Do everything,” remember that the phrase is meaningless, and perhaps worse…. http://www.geripal.org/2012/09/ban-phrase-do-everything-its-dangerous.html :- Doug.

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One person cars

We have withdrawn into our one person cars. We won’t give up our cell phones for a meal with our mates or children. Our most imperative deepest felt inborn need is to meet and be part of one another on … Continue reading

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Our ethical task

Our ethical task is to somehow find each other, to help each other find our own way. :- Doug.

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What is more important than that?

In family, in community, we can help each other live well. What is more important than that? :- Doug.

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sticking our nose in

Sometimes we are called to stick our nose in where we might otherwise think it did not belong. :- Doug.

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If we can’t laugh

If we can’t laugh, what sanity is there? :- Doug.

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Your last 30 years

Your last 30 years What good will you? :- Doug.

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Senior flash mob

http://www.boston.com/yourtown/news/west_roxbury/2012/06/video_seniors_flash_mob_west_r.html :- Doug.

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What of the fragile?

What of the poor, the frail, the fragile? They have no more strength for anything outside themselves: perhaps. But what can they do? What do they do? They can love: they can turn outwards. Turning outward reverses the flow of … Continue reading

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Inviting old age to pour

I invite this old age estuary to pour into the sea, to expand and spread itself. This is a larger picture than devising the meaning of one’s life, of hugging and forgiving and laughing and crying at our death bed. … Continue reading

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Love letters to our families

Wills, Trusts, Powers of Attorney, Personal Care Agreements, Living Wills, end of life caring, Long-Term Caring: I help people write love letters to their families. :- Doug.

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The gentle work

What is the work I will want to be doing when I am dying? I do not want desperately to be trying to cap off my chapter, nor coming up with an apt final word. I want to be giving … Continue reading

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Potent disjunction

Potent disjunction Disjunction: disparity, diversity, wholeness, fullness, roundness Potent: possible, powerful, wholeness, fullness, creative Our family: potent disjunction calling us forth :- Doug.

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When do we die well?

When do we die well? I’d thinking it is when we die our own death: when we die where and with whom we choose; when we are in the state of mind and heart we want. We don’t all get … Continue reading

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