Category Archives: Family

Problem with not conversing

Posted on August 13, 2015 by dgermann

The problem with not conversing is that we miss each other—not just our meanings. :- Doug.

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Our family knows

Posted on August 12, 2015 by dgermann

Our family knows more than they think they know about the direction of our health. :- Doug.

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Two is divisive

Posted on August 11, 2015 by dgermann

Two is divisive. :- Doug.

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Death is a passage Through an orchard There are fruits There are tangled parts Where few have been Orchards are part Human intervention Part natural processes Over yonder is the house Where I used to live On the other side … Continue reading →

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In need of dying

Posted on August 5, 2015 by dgermann

I want to die kindly with others hearing me. I cannot give you any hard and fast rules. Just: be kind; be gentle; be loving; be wrapped in my love. I want you to converse together—you who love me, you … Continue reading →

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Once, twice

Posted on August 4, 2015 by dgermann

Once, twice, I saw the others Not through my eyes but theirs Not through my heart but theirs Not through my being but theirs Now we move within the truth of us :- Doug.

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Where’s the poetry?

Posted on July 29, 2015 by dgermann

Where’s the poetry in this? :- Doug.

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The baby coos and gurgles

Posted on July 25, 2015 by dgermann

The baby coos and gurgles We smile The old man coos and gurgles We cringe For one we have been there And know what joys lie ahead For the other we fear we may know Something else that is ahead … Continue reading →

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Pattern of the whole cloth

Posted on July 24, 2015 by dgermann

How we mend the world is through the stitches of conversation. One at a time, this piece rejoins that, and we begin to see the pattern of the whole cloth. :- Doug.

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long suit

Posted on July 24, 2015 by dgermann

My long suit is the long meeting, so that people can come out with a direction and be comfortable with it. :- Doug.

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You maybe want to talk

Posted on July 23, 2015 by dgermann

You maybe want to talk about people who have died, or deaths you have witnessed, or medical care, or vivere dum mori (live while you are dying). :- Doug.

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Death Café Death Over Dinner

Posted on July 23, 2015 by dgermann

Let us take Death Café and Death Over Dinner to a practical level. Let us meet for a day, a few families to round out our thinking and take it deeper, let us come out with knowing each other better, … Continue reading →

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always larger

Posted on July 23, 2015 by dgermann

There is a larger way of looking at this. :- Doug.

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You must vindicate me

Posted on July 22, 2015 by dgermann

You must vindicate me You must show what I say You are the promise of me :- Doug.

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each good

Posted on July 22, 2015 by dgermann

Varying and each good—aha! :- Doug.

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Fear the enemy

Posted on July 22, 2015 by dgermann

Fear the enemy Love the commonality Hiding the tactic Saying who we are the armor Gathering of brokenness the strength Conversing the easy courage How we live our dying the common ground Fights the halfway up the mountain Leaving them … Continue reading →

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most important thing to convey

Posted on July 21, 2015 by dgermann

In starting the conversation, the most important thing to convey is your openness to have the conversation. :- Doug.

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