Category Archives: Eldering

Medicine is

Medicine is a friend touching your hand in the hospital, a doctor kindly telling you it is OK to say good-bye to your husband, another doctor saying people only die because I do not know enough to keep them alive. … Continue reading

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A precious resource

In our society we have equated elderly with infirmity, in-valid-ity. Yet other times and cultures have learned this is a time of rich harvest and that elders are a precious resource. :- Doug.

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The velocity of our lives

We can know velocity of our lives and our financial position and our direction, but at most two at a given time: the third will be undefinable. :- Doug.

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Living until we die?

How then shall we live until we die? How shall we die as we live? Does dying have to be a separate thing, even with its mystery? :- Doug.

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What do we mean by “burden?”

What do we mean by “burden?” Can we put a picture to it? Do we mean divorcing ourselves from our children’s lives? Ripping ourselves out like weeds from the garden? :- Doug.

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What is the most fun you can have dying?

What is the most fun you can have dying? :- Doug.

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Right living in your last days?

What is right living in your last days? :- Doug.

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Nurture us:

End of life conversations can nurture us. :- Doug.

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You deserve a chance:

You deserve a chance. A chance to live as you want. :- Doug.

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Not simply dragging out

Conversation is not about simply dragging out what’s inside you. It is about shaping it. It is about discovering it. It is about co-creating it. I had not thought about dying on the boat dock till my friend Jerry voiced … Continue reading

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The work of eldering

The work of life, particularly eldering, is the dissolution of ego. As we get older, as we become parents, as we become more mature, we see less and less sense in winning arguments, getting our way, controlling things. As I … Continue reading

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Start the melting

As I look around this people, I see the salt of the earth. Today, the world about us is icy: together you can start the melting. :- Doug.

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First, live well together….

First, live well together; second, see how the money parts can serve your living. :- Doug.

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No How only Do

For deepening of conversation Is no how only do :- Doug.

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There is more here.

There is more here. :- Doug.

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And still we are not done

We germinate, we leaf, we vine, we flower! We set little green fruit, we grow round, we grow fat, we grow green and then red! We fall to the ground, spent, or we are food! And still we are not … Continue reading

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What is more important than that?

In family, in community, we can help each other live well. What is more important than that? :- Doug.

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