Category Archives: Conversation

strength in long conferences

Posted on January 5, 2015 by dgermann

My strength is the long conference…so that we can arrive at more workable options. :- Doug.

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There is no natural reluctance

Posted on January 2, 2015 by dgermann

There is no natural reluctance To converse of death and dying ‘Tis the work of culture—ours :- Doug.

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A client who does not want to be helped

Posted on December 30, 2014 by dgermann

Helping a client who does not want to be helped, or who is otherwise stubborn? This approach is useful, I think, as a first try: 1. Foremost, do not try to sell any outcome or value; 2. Move toward specific … Continue reading →

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the long conference

Posted on December 29, 2014 by dgermann

My forte is the long conference. It is important to me to know people, to absorb one another. :- Doug.

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We can own this issue

Posted on December 28, 2014 by dgermann

We can own this issue. We can engage medicine in the conversation. We can make it easier for the doctors to have the conversation. :- Doug.

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Work

Posted on December 23, 2014 by dgermann

Conversation is work. :- Doug.

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I am worried

Posted on December 23, 2014 by dgermann

I am worried. Words that fit for a client for whom I have had a call this morning. I am worried she is in extremis. These words both fit and are fit for our conference. I think from what I … Continue reading →

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Choice of what kind of death

Posted on December 23, 2014 by dgermann

We now have the choice of what kind of death we want, although we haven’t yet realized it. This fact that there are few acute diseases anymore, that the trajectory is a long tail, gives us these choices. But we … Continue reading →

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nuances

Posted on December 22, 2014 by dgermann

Conversation is not in the Yeses and Noes, but also in the nuances of colors. :- Doug.

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Talking heals

Posted on December 19, 2014 by dgermann

Talking heals. :- Doug.

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How can we make end of life fulfilling, healing?

Posted on December 17, 2014 by dgermann

How can we make end of life fulfilling, healing? :- Doug.

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Do you picture yourself

Posted on December 16, 2014 by dgermann

Do you picture yourself again running a marathon, walking the entire grocery store, babysitting the grandchildren for a week? What is your most realistic recovery? :- Doug.

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Don’t make your doctor your enemy

Posted on December 15, 2014 by dgermann

Don’t make your doctor your enemy—enlist your doctor to do what you want. :- Doug.

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Death happens

Posted on December 15, 2014 by dgermann

Death happens Get ready :- Doug.

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Framework for the end of life conversation:

Posted on December 14, 2014 by dgermann

I have come to some framework for thinking about the end of life conversation: 1. we don’t know when death is approaching; 2. we never anymore reach the point of nothing more we can do; 3. having the conversation reduces … Continue reading →

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What I want for you:

Posted on December 13, 2014 by dgermann

What I want for you: 1. To have the conversation with your family; 2. To have the conversation with your doctor. :- Doug.

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We have tried this at home

Posted on December 11, 2014 by dgermann

We have tried this at home. The results have been pretty good. Let’s keep making better. :- Doug.

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