Category Archives: Conversation

anger and the expected

There’s a disconnect between What we expected and what happens That’s where the anger works us :- Doug.

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to see inside a person

You can see inside a person by the questions He or she asks —and does not ask :- Doug.

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Do no harm

How our way of thinking, seeing everything in numbers and statistics and Dollars, fearing face to face, forcing people to have so many patients they cannot find out who they are, is causing suffering and wrong deaths! We can meet … Continue reading

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death and anonymity

To endure the death and sufferings of patients doctors can distance themselves from names and relationships. But what if the deaths are contributed to by anonymity, what if our attitude toward persons—persons!—directly caused the suffering? Theirs and ours? :- Doug.

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someday you will not be allowed

Someday you will not be allowed to decide find out now decide now for when :- Doug.

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The 20-L-10 rule

The 20-L-10 Rule: When you have the doctor for 20 minutes—take your list—devote 10 minutes to the end of life conversation. :- Doug.

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This morning I did not want to call

This morning I did not want to call a certain person. “It will take care of itself” I thought. But I forced myself to call. This conversation I need to initiate. Things will not get better if we ignore each … Continue reading

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meet

To meet is meat and meet :- Doug.

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synonyms

Love, share, meet: synonyms. :- Doug.

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Diving in

Diving in is meeting is diving in :- Doug.

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Invitation

I tend toward anger when my heart is not received. Strange! I should tend toward compassion. Compassion for the other. Compassion for my own soul wanting to feel and express anger over the hurt. It is OK to fight, I … Continue reading

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My long suit

My long suit is long, deepening conversation. :- Doug.

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share hearts

This is a work that lets me share my heart. :- Doug.

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Listening or hearing?

Listening or hearing? Listening is something we do to another; hearing we do with them. Listening is concentrating on ourselves and our doing; hearing is letting others and their experiences soak into us. Listening is about us; hearing is about … Continue reading

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die, used up

To meet is to drop shields, expose our most vulnerable, tender, growing parts, and to risk mobilizing just these. We may indeed fall and die. We cannot be sure how far those immediately behind us get. But we know that … Continue reading

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The dream converses

The dream converses. :- Doug.

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begin to find wisdom

We begin to find wisdom when we reflect & converse :- Doug.

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