Category Archives: Caring

It is up to us as well

Posted on November 4, 2012 by dgermann

How will we know when it’s time to say goodbye? Because it is up to us as well. We know it is up to us because we have seen people stay around for a holiday or a grandchild’s wedding, or … Continue reading →

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What do we mean by “burden?”

Posted on November 3, 2012 by dgermann

What do we mean by “burden?” Can we put a picture to it? Do we mean divorcing ourselves from our children’s lives? Ripping ourselves out like weeds from the garden? :- Doug.

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How can they happen reliably?

Posted on October 29, 2012 by dgermann

How can we help the conversations happen reliably, involving as many of the group of care givers (of whatever profession), family and our living person? :- Doug.

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Not simply dragging out

Posted on October 24, 2012 by dgermann

Conversation is not about simply dragging out what’s inside you. It is about shaping it. It is about discovering it. It is about co-creating it. I had not thought about dying on the boat dock till my friend Jerry voiced … Continue reading →

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“Observation status”

Posted on October 21, 2012 by dgermann

“First, do no harm.” Yet with “observation status” you are doing harm: to the sick, the frail, our elders. :- Doug.

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No professional time for this conversation?

Posted on October 20, 2012 by dgermann

Is it really true there is, for lawyer, for doctor, no time for the end of life conversation? Can we say “This is on me”? Do we have to make every moment pay? Can we make this conversation pay? :- … Continue reading →

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A doing with

Posted on October 11, 2012 by dgermann

Care is a thing done to a person; caring is a doing with a whole family. :- Doug.

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Start the melting

Posted on October 9, 2012 by dgermann

As I look around this people, I see the salt of the earth. Today, the world about us is icy: together you can start the melting. :- Doug.

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First, live well together….

Posted on October 9, 2012 by dgermann

First, live well together; second, see how the money parts can serve your living. :- Doug.

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A thousand right ways to converse….

Posted on October 7, 2012 by dgermann

There are a thousand right ways to converse, a thousand right ways to love! :- Doug.

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No How only Do

Posted on October 7, 2012 by dgermann

For deepening of conversation Is no how only do :- Doug.

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There is more here.

Posted on October 6, 2012 by dgermann

There is more here. :- Doug.

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In conversation we risk

Posted on September 25, 2012 by dgermann

In conversation we risk contributing, risk something happening to us. :- Doug.

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Starting the end of life conversation

Posted on September 1, 2012 by dgermann

It’s easier for a lawyer to start the end of life conversation because we start it earlier, when it is less immediate, and less complicated with urgent and intense medical and emotional issues. We can prepare people. :- Doug.

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What is more important than that?

Posted on August 18, 2012 by dgermann

In family, in community, we can help each other live well. What is more important than that? :- Doug.

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sticking our nose in

Posted on August 17, 2012 by dgermann

Sometimes we are called to stick our nose in where we might otherwise think it did not belong. :- Doug.

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If we can’t laugh

Posted on August 16, 2012 by dgermann

If we can’t laugh, what sanity is there? :- Doug.

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