Category Archives: Caring
Bring me toys
Bring me toys if I get to experience dementia. As I progress backwards through my decades, bring me things to occupy my happy moments: travel brochures when I am again in my 50s, tax return forms and calculators when I … Continue reading
A quiet little elder caring law practice
We have a quiet little elder caring law practice caring for people caring for their family. For instance, we help these ways: —Powers of assistance, if it’s soon enough —If it is later, Judge signed licenses to care for (They … Continue reading
Demented lives matter
Demented lives matter The voices which have no sense Need hearing by us, somehow If we embrace these Can we live in peace? :- Doug.
lacking rhythm?
At the reception last night, I saw a couple of old people who were sitting at tables, staring off into nothing. It seemed to me they lacked the rhythm with the people around them, were no longer in sync. Perhaps … Continue reading
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Poetic time
We have poetic time, which is also beyond profane time. It flies, it reaches back, it reaches into our psyches shadowing us. Convergent, divergent, snaking, devious, and straight on to the core, coeur, corps. Few and fewer words to say … Continue reading
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Story time
Here’s another time: story time. It is beyond clock time (profane time). Story time stands still. It might actually go back and forth, and in 360 degrees, don’t you think? It brings the future near, obliquely. It harvests the day … Continue reading
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Bridge to this old person
What is the bridge between you and this old person? How can you cross? What the nature of the space between you? :- Doug.
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The know/kill observation
The know/kill observation means nursing homes. We do kill each other by ignoring the resident and killing his or her life; we do kill ourselves by making people into projects, into things, and losing our life in the process. :- … Continue reading
What other things do we do together?
Listen to your heart, listen to your breathing. Notice the other’s breathing. Notice your movements together. Do we each fold our arms? Do we respond to the other’s nods, gestures? Does the same gesture follow one particular movement? When one … Continue reading
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When without words
How do we converse when without words: maybe with rhythm, rhythms of which we are not aware, but might find ways to notice. :- Doug.
More to dream
They’re older than you—they have more things about which to dream. :- Doug.
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the most luscious
Consider you may be rousing someone from the most luscious dream. :- Doug.
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all at once Mozart
Kairos time can be all at once, Mozart experiencing his symphonies. :- Doug.
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How long is an interlude?
How long is an interlude? For as long as when half Is whole :- Doug.
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The glance
One profundity of Kairos might be the glance—a meeting in the eyes. A second might be silence—a briefest break in time and rhythm. Knowing is a third—that it is there and being willing, curious, and respectful enough to wait. :- … Continue reading
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You can practice your deepest art
Zen’s word “ma” is the meaningful interval or space in time. Silence perhaps. Silence shouts the unsounded. Here is where you can practice your deepest art. :- Doug.
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We ask the clock
We ask the clock, how much time do I have left till…as if time were sand in a bag with a hole in the bottom. It is hard for us to see time as anything else. But was it always … Continue reading
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