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Elder Caring Lawyer

The question that heals:

Posted on May 28, 2012 by dgermann

What are your areas of discomfort? “What ails thee?” This is the question that heals. :- Doug.

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“They know what I want.”

Posted on May 28, 2012 by dgermann

You cannot know what you want until you meet it in conversation. Here you discover and form. “They know what I want” can be avoidance of the questions. :- Doug.

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If you think you might die someday….

Posted on May 27, 2012 by dgermann

If you think you might die some day, what are you willing to do to make that better for your children and grandchildren? When? :- Doug.

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What are the most health stimulating, wholeness inducing rhythms we can employ in elder caring lawyering? Slow the rhythms, open: allowing for all voices to be heard, from piccolo to bassoon, from kettle drum to marimba, from plaintive violin to … Continue reading →

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With Mom: we are all in the nursing home.

Posted on May 26, 2012 by dgermann

With Mom: we are all in the nursing home. :- Doug.

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When we are dying, how can we help our family?

Posted on May 25, 2012 by dgermann

When we are dying, what can we do to help our family? What does my death teach them? My life? How profound can we be for them? :- Doug.

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To speak of a right to die is silly

Posted on May 24, 2012 by dgermann

To speak of a right to die is silly—as if we were not all going to die. The right we want is the right to the kind of death we want—gentle, noticed, felt. :- Doug.

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What’s possible?

Posted on May 23, 2012 by dgermann

How can I die the death I want if I don’t know what’s possible? :- Doug.

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A right to our own deaths

Posted on May 22, 2012 by dgermann

We should have a right to our own deaths. Yet we are stealing it from one another, throwing it under our wheels, or simply not knowing how to give it to one another. :- Doug.

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Purely medical?

Posted on May 21, 2012 by dgermann

Are the end of life decisions purely medical? :- Doug.

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What are the markers?

Posted on May 20, 2012 by dgermann

What are the markers to know the end of life decisions are coming? :- Doug.

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How do you want them to experience your death?

Posted on May 19, 2012 by dgermann

How do you want your children and grandchildren to experience your death? :- Doug.

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Preparing your children?

Posted on May 18, 2012 by dgermann

What are you doing to prepare your children for your death? :- Doug.

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The right answer to aging?

Posted on May 17, 2012 by dgermann

What is the right answer to aging? What is the right answer to caring for your parents? :- Doug.

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What does it mean to be a burden?

Posted on May 16, 2012 by dgermann

What about caring with you would be a burden? What does it mean to be a burden? Was it a burden to change your children’s diapers? :- Doug.

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Who can we be?

Posted on May 15, 2012 by dgermann

Dad’s getting older, maybe dying—who can we yet be together? :- Doug.

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Vending machine picture of law

Posted on May 14, 2012 by dgermann

Many times we have a vending machine picture of law: put in a coin, out comes a certain result, predictably. Time by time we find we are in a flowing stream with 10,000 variables floating past, each can touch us, … Continue reading →

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