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Not much more to be said

Not much more to be said. Not much value in saying it. :- Doug.

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Why do we want our family around when we’re dying?

Why do those of us who want this Want our family around when we’re dying? Could it be because we want One last chance To find our strength in our vulnerable intimacy? To share our highest selves in our deepest … Continue reading

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The game, the fun, can take us deeper

The game, the fun, can take us deeper. It is not surface, can be seen by all of us as deeper once we reflect. Deeper partially because of the pause to reflect, partially because of looking at things from a … Continue reading

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Why a game?

Why a game? To get us to open up; get us thinking about dying; keep fun in it all; get us thinking more deeply about conversing with our families. :- Doug.

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A brilliant cardinal drops

A brilliant cardinal drops out of the tree flies straight away from me to light a hundred yards away and we our brightness carry to distant needs and close :- Doug.

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It’s the challenge

It’s the challenge which makes family difficult & games & life & love fun :- Doug.

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Fade into all your playmates

Give your self Every day To those with whom you play To those you’d invite to play To the playing Then when you’re having most fun Some day You’ll be lucky enough To fade into all your playmates :- Doug.

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Repairing our family?

Aren’t we about making whole, repairing the world, at least of our family, bringing parent and child together? And isn’t that difficult, dangerous work? :- Doug.

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When I die

When I die To myself Free, I fly Dying before I die Flying before I fly Into the wind, leap! :- Doug.

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We

We Play together Learn each other Frustrate Make demands Get angry Want to pull away Stay together Reopen Respond Play gently Let go expectations Embrace Take time out Take turns Change sides Change rules Become new again Vivid Fun Unanticipated … Continue reading

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the root of all challenges

O save us from conflict Battles and wars Competitors, rivals, enemies everywhere But the root of all challenges Is with one another: our connection :- Doug.

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Rediscover, redefine

Rediscover, redefine Your living, playful path But larger than that, remember Your birth is your terminal condition So rediscover, redefine Your dying path Fill it, empty it Paint it with colors subtle Dance it with steps nuanced :- Doug.

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We become more creative when

We become more creative when our heads are open. And hearts. :- Doug.

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On the trail

I’m on the trail of parent and child finding new ways to care for one another. :- Doug.

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Telemedicine to keep you at home

Friends– Here’s an article from CNBC about a non-profit in Pennsylvania trying out telemedicine: essentially it looks to be a monitoring device that allows nurses and doctors to be alerted if you fall or have other needs. Thus, for some … Continue reading

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Papa has “a touch the dementia”

Papa has “a touch the dementia” Mama knows better than the doctors, The financial planners and the lawyers, all Daughter’s emotions have static electricity Social Security says son’s intellect disables him The other daughter is overwhelmed By the financial numbers, … Continue reading

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Questions we can ask our children to start the conversation

Questions we can ask our children to start the conversation: Do you remember when X died? What did you think of the decisions made? How would you like to be treated then? To what age would you like to live? … Continue reading

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