Author Archives: dgermann
When we could have been
Much of what we do is unthinking forgetting to engage our profundity and collateral effects detector So that if we think to promise Mom no nursing home we ought think about her sitting helplessly watching us kill ourselves While we … Continue reading
Don’t promise me no nursing homes
Please don’t promise me to never put me in a nursing home Instead, take me to visit my old home bring from there my favorite things But do not kill yourself cleaning after me, picking up my weight, cajoling me … Continue reading
We create our deaths
We create our lives by what we say about them to one another. We do this by laws, social conventions, our own words and actions. In the same way we create our deaths. What death do you want? What death … Continue reading
Posted in Eldering, Grieving, Healing and Wholeness, Poetry
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A jigsaw puzzle too big for the table
A jigsaw puzzle too big for the table is our society, our family, our life. :- Doug.
Posted in Family, Poetry
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Law is love put into words
Law is love put into words Law is therefore the child of love :- Doug.
Posted in Caring, Healing and Wholeness, Poetry
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treating each other well
Law is ultimately about people treating each other well Law is about love :- Doug.
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paper thin skin
On my hands paper thin skin like my grandparents’ was surprised am I that I am not exempt! :- Doug.
Posted in Aging, Poetry
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Are nursing homes boring?
Are nursing homes boring? Do they cause people to be bored? Are they arranged for boredom? Do some people who refuse to be bored get labeled as “acting out,” “non compliant,” and get medicated for it? Is this boring arrangement … Continue reading
The modern form of shunning
How might we restore life to those in the nursing home? Do we see folks in nursing homes as dead men and women walking? We need to assign blame in this to ourselves, and not to society in general: what … Continue reading
I had the ouchies backwards
I used to say we spend 98.5% of our time thinking in the future. Now I think I had it backwards. What we learned and experienced years ago recorded tapes and disks we replay now. Often unconsciously. But if now … Continue reading
Posted in Conversation, Eldering, Healing and Wholeness
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How human in a nursing home?
How human, that is, creative, do we allow people to be in a nursing home? Staff, administrators, residents all face the same limits. :- Doug.
Courts are a utility
Courts are a utility. Courts are not a hindrance, but a way to get clarity and finality, commodities rare in our world. When you need water you go to the water utility, for electricity you go to a different place. … Continue reading
Not a skill
Conversation is not a skill Like driving a car Many driving actions need to be Ingrained So we can act in an instant Conversing takes an ever new We Ever present Ever conscious of Everything The only ingrained is Moment … Continue reading
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For this lawyer, time is…
For this lawyer, time is…life energy. :- Doug.
Posted in Caring
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