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Lamenting the younger generation

A friend was lamenting the younger generation not accepting our wisdom. No, and they won’t get our wisdom (neither receive nor comprehend nor apprehend). They will have to make up their own as they go along. It is the way … Continue reading

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The hopeful part

The hopeful part The exciting part Whatever we know The world Billows ever more :- Doug.

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Gently

I cannot have a handle on you But I can camp out beside :- Doug.

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For the people not in them

Jenny would help Dad to the toilet and puree his food in between feeding her granddaughter and getting her husband’s supper after a day gathering eggs and snapping beans Now Jenny has a job or two she could quit go … Continue reading

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Out beside

I cannot have a handle on you But I can camp out beside :- Doug.

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Than can be heard

There’s more to hear Than can be heard :- Doug.

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Secrecy in the elder care business?

Why is there secrecy in the elder care business? I sent students to assisted living and nursing facilities to get sample admission contracts and they were refused. Is it “We know better than you, trust us?” Is it fear of … Continue reading

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People feeling unsurd

The root of our problems is People feeling unsurd and unheen :- Doug.

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What are people doing dying?

What are people doing dying? Living yet (I hope) What are people doing living? Creating yet (new expanses to the day) :- Doug.

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Stories about good deaths?

What are the stories we tell each other about good and bad deaths? How might we improve our storytelling? :- Doug.

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A whole litter

Advance Care Planning is not primarily to capture wishes But to coax them out of hiding And to engender a whole litter of them :- Doug.

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Smart phones

Smart phones have increase exponentially the speed with which we can display our stupidity. :- Doug.

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Suffer from Alzheimer’s?

Can people who have Alzheimer’s Disease suffer from it? Surely those around them do, and surely this person experiences pain. Pain is part of the human daily condition. But suffering is optional. We might wonder if, without memory of the … Continue reading

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Conflict is always about something else

Conflict is always about something else. :- Doug.

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They put the old man in a home

They put the old man in a home Without e’en so much as a comb But he fooled them all: One day late in fall Eloped with his bride to the Dome :- Doug.

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Wanted: Kindly person,

Wanted: Kindly person, lover of old folks, life, and spreadsheets :- Doug.

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How to be a burden

You can be a burden on your family at end of life by stressing them, giving emotional pain, keeping them in the dark—not just by being a financial burden. More so, not letting people help or love you is a … Continue reading

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