The sense to use with crazy talk in the dying is Let’s find out. Be curious. Ask. He might just be using metaphor or saying it in story. She might just want assurances that you will be OK, that she … Continue reading →

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Discussing without conversing

Posted on April 22, 2017 by dgermann

Discussing without conversing is butterfly without flowers. :- Doug.

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Listening without hearing

Posted on April 22, 2017 by dgermann

Listening without hearing is a common wasted effort. :- Doug.

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Being done to

Posted on April 21, 2017 by dgermann

In a hospital you’re being done to, no questions please; in hospice you are doing, all questions welcome. :- Doug.

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Your heart, mind, body

Posted on April 21, 2017 by dgermann

What’s on your heart, mind, body? When you think about your end of life, do you feel it in some part of your body—your stomach, upper arms, feet? :- Doug.

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Plan your EOL conversation

Posted on April 21, 2017 by dgermann

Ask yourself to plan your end of life conversation: What will you do? Is there someone you need to speak with? What bit of life is then most important? Where will you meet? When? :- Doug.

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Deeply ever deeply

Posted on April 20, 2017 by dgermann

Deeply ever deeply how to meet? close your eyes to see where is the fear? the broken open heart? :- Doug.

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Guardianship is the price

Posted on April 20, 2017 by dgermann

Guardianship is the price for not having a power of attorney. :- Doug.

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“You might be just an old middler if you….”

Posted on April 20, 2017 by dgermann

“You might be just an old middler if you….” :- Doug.

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Earning a patina

Posted on April 20, 2017 by dgermann

Doctors propose to put you through something now to possibly give you more time later. This is a thought that fits middlers very well, but elders not so well. For elders living now earns a patina day by day. Hug … Continue reading →

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