Author Archives: dgermann
Child adult middler elder
Child, adult, middler, elder can map to Mindell’s phases: 1. me-me-me; 2. not-me problems to solve; 3. starting to see both sides, role-playing, dreaming; 4. higher-larger-infinity-eternity-whole-generativity. :- Doug.
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See you bigger
Elders are simultaneously within and outside the system. So they can see you bigger, help the grandchildren make a bigger world. :- Doug.
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When young
When young there is plenty of time later When seasoned time washes Time later starts to course into time now :- Doug.
Posted in Aging, Eldering, Poetry
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Hardware store
The hardware store sells me a quarter inch drill. Do they sell me quarter inch holes? No. The doctor, the lawyer, the preacher provide me a service. Do they sell me a result? No. They each provide what they provide. … Continue reading
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“Laden with happiness and tears
“Laden with happiness and tears.” Are tears more profound, more together-bringing than happiness? Or just a form of happiness? Either can carry us along the generational stream. :- Doug.
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Easy to talk with
My father in law used to say, “Retired people are easy to talk with. They have nothing to prove.” I don’t believe it—it’s not retired folks. It is elders. Of any age. People who have nothing to prove: who have … Continue reading
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Teach I don’t know
To teach wisdom, teach the living of “I don’t know.” :- Doug.
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Deny you are wise?
Finally, wisdom is saying I don’t know. If you deny being wise, you probably are on your way. :- Doug.
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Bigger than only
Bigger than only. Each and together. Know this and you elder. :- Doug.
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Oh, to float lazily
Oh, to float lazily like these few snowflakes. What care have they except to fall, to fly ahead of the breezes, to land softly and lie still, to accumulate, to be? To melt, to evaporate, to know only they are … Continue reading
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TSP
Eldering is at once theoretical, spiritual, and practical: it aims us towards a better working world. :- Doug.
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Take charge for
Elders can take charge for our world, for the grandchildren. Take charge not control: no one is in control but all can take charge. For not of, nor over. This is an attitude shift that changes our destination. :- Doug.
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Picture elder years?
How do we picture elder years? If we reflect on the television ads for investment and life insurance companies, we see images of sailboats, golfing, and travel. These reveal a deep-seated mythos: the life of the elder grows larger. These … Continue reading
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