Monthly Archives: November 2014

People feeling unsurd

The root of our problems is People feeling unsurd and unheen :- Doug.

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What are people doing dying?

What are people doing dying? Living yet (I hope) What are people doing living? Creating yet (new expanses to the day) :- Doug.

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Stories about good deaths?

What are the stories we tell each other about good and bad deaths? How might we improve our storytelling? :- Doug.

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A whole litter

Advance Care Planning is not primarily to capture wishes But to coax them out of hiding And to engender a whole litter of them :- Doug.

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Smart phones

Smart phones have increase exponentially the speed with which we can display our stupidity. :- Doug.

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Suffer from Alzheimer’s?

Can people who have Alzheimer’s Disease suffer from it? Surely those around them do, and surely this person experiences pain. Pain is part of the human daily condition. But suffering is optional. We might wonder if, without memory of the … Continue reading

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Conflict is always about something else

Conflict is always about something else. :- Doug.

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They put the old man in a home

They put the old man in a home Without e’en so much as a comb But he fooled them all: One day late in fall Eloped with his bride to the Dome :- Doug.

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Wanted: Kindly person,

Wanted: Kindly person, lover of old folks, life, and spreadsheets :- Doug.

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How to be a burden

You can be a burden on your family at end of life by stressing them, giving emotional pain, keeping them in the darkā€”not just by being a financial burden. More so, not letting people help or love you is a … Continue reading

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memento vitae

Maybe what our culture needs for our end of life conversation is some serious time for memento mori, memento vitae. :- Doug.

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When we could have been

Much of what we do is unthinking forgetting to engage our profundity and collateral effects detector So that if we think to promise Mom no nursing home we ought think about her sitting helplessly watching us kill ourselves While we … Continue reading

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Don’t promise me no nursing homes

Please don’t promise me to never put me in a nursing home Instead, take me to visit my old home bring from there my favorite things But do not kill yourself cleaning after me, picking up my weight, cajoling me … Continue reading

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We create our deaths

We create our lives by what we say about them to one another. We do this by laws, social conventions, our own words and actions. In the same way we create our deaths. What death do you want? What death … Continue reading

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A jigsaw puzzle too big for the table

A jigsaw puzzle too big for the table is our society, our family, our life. :- Doug.

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Law is love put into words

Law is love put into words Law is therefore the child of love :- Doug.

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treating each other well

Law is ultimately about people treating each other well Law is about love :- Doug.

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