Monthly Archives: November 2014
Doors not walls
Hate and conflict too are doorways to mutual understanding: doors, not walls. :- Doug.
Posted in Conversation, Eldering, Family, Healing and Wholeness
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What we care enough to fight over
Perhaps we do not have to examine our opinions and ideologies—our differences—so much as what we care about enough to fight over—our commons. Either way in to the circle ought to work, and maybe there are other doors. :- Doug.
Posted in Family, Healing and Wholeness
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Short POAs
We lawyers do short POAs because we fail to see them as worthy of much time, work, and attention. :- Doug.
Posted in Powers of Attorney
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measuring more finely in end of life
We need to measure outcomes of end of life caring more finely: for the larger outcome for us all is death. What if we looked for outcomes in dying? :- Doug.
Posted in Caring, Emergency/Crisis Medical
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What would intensive tenderness look like?
What would intensive tenderness look like? :- Doug.
Posted in Caring, Emergency/Crisis Medical
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Intensive care helps us live longer?
We tend to think more intensive care helps us live longer. Statistics suggest that may not be the case. Beyond that, we might not even know what we mean by living. :- Doug.
Who matters?
Who matters? These are Your family Even those you fight Who matters? :- Doug.
Posted in Family, Poetry
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Shunted from one place to the next
It’s not just one and done—you get resuscitated when you don’t want it. You also can get shunted from one place to the next to the next by uncaring or unthinking “systems” of people. Marketing and overworked staff, people with … Continue reading
Lamenting the younger generation
A friend was lamenting the younger generation not accepting our wisdom. No, and they won’t get our wisdom (neither receive nor comprehend nor apprehend). They will have to make up their own as they go along. It is the way … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Eldering, Healing and Wholeness
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For the people not in them
Jenny would help Dad to the toilet and puree his food in between feeding her granddaughter and getting her husband’s supper after a day gathering eggs and snapping beans Now Jenny has a job or two she could quit go … Continue reading
Posted in Caring, Long-Term Care and nursing homes, Poetry
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Out beside
I cannot have a handle on you But I can camp out beside :- Doug.
Than can be heard
There’s more to hear Than can be heard :- Doug.
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Secrecy in the elder care business?
Why is there secrecy in the elder care business? I sent students to assisted living and nursing facilities to get sample admission contracts and they were refused. Is it “We know better than you, trust us?” Is it fear of … Continue reading