Category Archives: Family
You have a claim upon me
You have a claim upon me, as I have upon you. :- Doug.
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Grampa-ing
Eldering is grampa-ing and gramma-ing. :- Doug.
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All we can do is meet
All we can do is meet. The best we can do is meet. :- Doug.
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bring a larger in
How well am I investing my life this hour? This hour of friendship spent in non-productive tasks—talking to others, helping my friend, not knowing if I am of help—I ask if this is the purpose of life, at least my … Continue reading
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A wound attended
A wound attended Has a chance to heal :- Doug.
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Saving home
We are saving home, health, and hearth. :- Doug.
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Qualifying for Medicaid
You want to get Mom qualified for Medicaid: there are ways that are solid, that are legal and ethical, that work; they need to be done with care to follow the complex and ever-changing rules. :- Doug.
worry of running out of money
You want help for Medicaid qualification for reasons financial: you could lose much to the nursing home. You want help with the burdens: you could do this yourself, but help will make your gathering of documents more efficient and effective, … Continue reading
You will elder the children
You will elder the children. Some will be. :- Doug.
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Questions, curiosity, stories, hearing
How might we elder the children, the community, the cosmos? By sharing. What shall we share? Maybe not our wisdom. Rather our questioning, our curiosity, our stories, our hearing this person. Maybe less. :- Doug.
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Eldering is close
Eldering is close to the grandchildren close to the ancestors close to community the universes close to God :- Doug.
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She gets the better of me
She gets the better of me My wife in our spats “You said” —and instantly I cannot remember What either of us said Truly I was not there In the words Only in the emotions or In the between of … Continue reading
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Gently
This is eldering: asking an adult child about the trajectory of his or her life: gently pointing to possible reflections. :- Doug.
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Meeting Daddy
Having a true conversation in the nursing home can mean meeting Daddy again for the first time. :- Doug.
to lead out
Eldering has often been storying around because humans innately know the power of story to lead out among us :- Doug.
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To sing his or her life
Here’s an elder in a nursing home, or here’s one with dementia: What could it mean to hear this one encouraged to tell or sing his or her life? :- Doug.
Can it be fulfilling?
Can living with a nursing home be fulfilling? :- Doug.