Monthly Archives: February 2018
Here we do something special. :- Doug.
There follows decrepitude. Not all experience it. Some perhaps even seek it after other parts of their lives. It might be short, or it might last years. Might it include some spiritual dimensions? :- Doug.
Child, adult, middler, elder can map to Mindell’s phases: 1. me-me-me; 2. not-me problems to solve; 3. starting to see both sides, role-playing, dreaming; 4. higher-larger-infinity-eternity-whole-generativity. :- Doug.
Elders are simultaneously within and outside the system. So they can see you bigger, help the grandchildren make a bigger world. :- Doug.
When young there is plenty of time later When seasoned time washes Time later starts to course into time now :- Doug.
The hardware store sells me a quarter inch drill. Do they sell me quarter inch holes? No. The doctor, the lawyer, the preacher provide me a service. Do they sell me a result? No. They each provide what they provide. … Continue reading
The elder view is the long view. :- Doug.
“Laden with happiness and tears.” Are tears more profound, more together-bringing than happiness? Or just a form of happiness? Either can carry us along the generational stream. :- Doug.
My father in law used to say, “Retired people are easy to talk with. They have nothing to prove.” I don’t believe it—it’s not retired folks. It is elders. Of any age. People who have nothing to prove: who have … Continue reading
To teach wisdom, teach the living of “I don’t know.” :- Doug.
Finally, wisdom is saying I don’t know. If you deny being wise, you probably are on your way. :- Doug.
Wisdom is in the questioning. :- Doug.
Bigger than only. Each and together. Know this and you elder. :- Doug.
Oh, to float lazily like these few snowflakes. What care have they except to fall, to fly ahead of the breezes, to land softly and lie still, to accumulate, to be? To melt, to evaporate, to know only they are … Continue reading
As we elder we see more. :- Doug.
Eldering is at once theoretical, spiritual, and practical: it aims us towards a better working world. :- Doug.