Monthly Archives: April 2017

Hard work of waiting it out

What I am discovering is that it is meeting I must invite. Easily. No pushing. But doing the hard work of waiting it out of people. Waiting out his and her being. Continually inviting, but not necessarily with words: with … Continue reading

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Name this grandchild

How might you name this grandchild? Bright eyes, Beloved, Curious, Firefly, Grasshopper, Wonderful, Mighty: what do you see in whom you see? Can your sight draw her out? Help her see her humanity, animality. divinity? :- Doug.

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Meet this Thou

The task of the elder is to meet this Thou: here being and doing are one. :- Doug.

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Done to–or being-doing?

Done to—or being-doing: this is the end of life question. :- Doug.

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Developing toward what?

If we see we elders are developing—or can be—toward what are we developing? Can we choose? Can we invent? :- Doug.

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Just this shelf

How are you taking responsibility for the world? We cannot clean the whole house in a moment. We must start somewhere: just this shelf, just this window. :- Doug.

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With the generations

What is the conversation you want to have with the generations, both past and future? How have you contributed to where we are today—by either adding to it, or withholding yourself? :- Doug.

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Sees patterns

An elder can see patterns a middler misses. :- Doug.

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The chrysalis

Beginning elders are in the chrysalis. :- Doug.

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You laugh

As an elder, your being is doing, your doing being. You reach a point where you do not have to choose anymore between being and doing. The two converge. The former split now seems artificial. There are new dynamics at … Continue reading

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Mom does not have to go broke

Mom does not have to go broke if Dad goes to the nursing home. She can buy things, she can loan things, she is in charge…. :- Doug.

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Spoken with the being

Conversation is spoken with the being. :- Doug.

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Development in eldering

There’s development going on in eldering. What do you see? :- Doug.

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Threat and blessing

The more you converse The more we become interwoven :- Doug.

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Death in conversation

Our death in conversation is real and risky: we may not emerge on the other side. So we have a choice. Here is a threshold. :- Doug.

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Do not need words

The important conversations do not all need words. :- Doug.

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Shape our grandchildren?

What forces will shape the world of our grandchildren? :- Doug.

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