Monthly Archives: February 2016

A grocery sack full of photos

A grocery sack full of photos my parents left who are these people? This picture was important—why? No longer any one to ask I threw out the bag and grieve :- Doug.

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You’re growing

If you’re living, you’re growing. :- Doug.

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You can’t save your parents from death

You can’t save your parents from death. As your parents find there are things they can no longer do, you are also losing something—your adequacy. You have not the money, the time, the energy, the wits to do everything for … Continue reading

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leaving for the grandkids

Some things we are leaving for the grandkids to discover after we have died! :- Doug.

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Doing good, getting hugs

As long as I am still doing good and getting hugs, I will keep at it. Besides, it gives me two sets of opportunities to do good: lawyering and facilitating. :- Doug.

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Truly beautiful caring of our elders

The only way we can get to truly good truly beautiful caring of our elders is to make it here and now—a pervasive community thing—in our moments and places of work. It cannot be off in the future, some wonderful … Continue reading

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Reflective conversation

A reflective conversation is needed. :- Doug.

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Even old-old have ability

Even old-old have ability to be whole to do everything for them is to steal from them give less help than he or she needs :- Doug.

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In no time

Look me in the eyes Feel my breath In no time :- Doug.

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Time to be caring:

Time to be caring: Kairos :- Doug.

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Conversation is in the claim

Conversation is in the claim each has on the other casting us into the waters between Conversation is claim on you and me :- Doug.

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Are words necessary?

Are words necessary when conversing with elders? :- Doug.

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Hinge generation

Another Country is telling me I am more a product of my times than I had realized. My desire to open up is in the time zone of the 60s, not of the 40s. So when clients tell me all … Continue reading

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The living have work to do

The living have work to do What we can see Might not be all they are doing :- Doug.

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The distance between

The distance is great between being elder and being elderly. :- Doug.

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Are special gifts?

Who are the elders you know who are special gifts? :- Doug.

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elder with elder?

Can we connect elder with elder? :- Doug.

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