Category Archives: Grieving
Listen to your grief
Listen to your grief, share your despair, converse over our common vulnerability. It is a way to come together out beyond the short and quick “It’s all abouts.” :- Doug.
Grief is play
Grief is play it turns us inside out :- Doug.
Somehow carry
Despair and grief are not the same: we know there is, but cannot see, and do not want, a way through grief to life; we want a way out of despair but expect none. Both lead to giving up; only … Continue reading
Garden
Grief? Improvisation? We are pulled forward to the garden. :- Doug.
but at 21 I could not yet know
Stripped bare nothing left but bone grieving together best of human loving I had an intuition of this her grandfather, his father died I drove in the funeral procession but at 21 I could not yet know :- Doug.
Skippingly work
Eldering is work, a different kind of work to be sure. It is work on yourself as much as on the world. It is losing yourself beyond grieving, beyond sacrifice, to skippingly chasing after it. It is finding a larger … Continue reading
Deeply ever deeply
Deeply ever deeply how to meet? close your eyes to see where is the fear? the broken open heart? :- Doug.
A good funeral experience?
Have you had a good funeral experience? A meaningful loss? Even deeper: a loss that you have survived? Deeper still: something that was either negative or positive, perhaps even meaningless, that is still a mystery to you? What’s there, for … Continue reading
What’s a sadness?
What’s a sadness that was profound growth for you? :- Doug.
gives us back to life
Communion is what we have what we are given and thrust into in life what we resist and shrink from and what gives us back to life in times of grief and 9-11 and barn-raisings :- Doug.
Plant a tree
If you would honor me, plant a tree for the wholeness of the next few generations. :- Doug.
Touching one another’s lives
Touching lives. This may be what I saw when I wrote that sharing grief is humanity’s soul purpose. Touching one another’s lives. Allowing ourselves to be touched. Lives touching. Inextricably entwining. :- Doug.