Category Archives: Grieving

Best time!

This is the best time of life! :- Doug.

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Listen to your grief

Listen to your grief, share your despair, converse over our common vulnerability. It is a way to come together out beyond the short and quick “It’s all abouts.” :- Doug.

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Grief is play

Grief is play it turns us inside out :- Doug.

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Groan

First, groan the groans. :- Doug.

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Somehow carry

Despair and grief are not the same: we know there is, but cannot see, and do not want, a way through grief to life; we want a way out of despair but expect none. Both lead to giving up; only … Continue reading

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Garden

Grief? Improvisation? We are pulled forward to the garden. :- Doug.

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Life is

You’re not in control; life is in control. :- Doug.

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but at 21 I could not yet know

Stripped bare nothing left but bone grieving together best of human loving I had an intuition of this her grandfather, his father died I drove in the funeral procession but at 21 I could not yet know :- Doug.

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Skippingly work

Eldering is work, a different kind of work to be sure. It is work on yourself as much as on the world. It is losing yourself beyond grieving, beyond sacrifice, to skippingly chasing after it. It is finding a larger … Continue reading

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Being done to

In a hospital you’re being done to, no questions please; in hospice you are doing, all questions welcome. :- Doug.

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Deeply ever deeply

Deeply ever deeply how to meet? close your eyes to see where is the fear? the broken open heart? :- Doug.

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A good funeral experience?

Have you had a good funeral experience? A meaningful loss? Even deeper: a loss that you have survived? Deeper still: something that was either negative or positive, perhaps even meaningless, that is still a mystery to you? What’s there, for … Continue reading

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What’s a sadness?

What’s a sadness that was profound growth for you? :- Doug.

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gives us back to life

Communion is what we have what we are given and thrust into in life what we resist and shrink from and what gives us back to life in times of grief and 9-11 and barn-raisings :- Doug.

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Plant a tree

If you would honor me, plant a tree for the wholeness of the next few generations. :- Doug.

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Touching one another’s lives

Touching lives. This may be what I saw when I wrote that sharing grief is humanity’s soul purpose. Touching one another’s lives. Allowing ourselves to be touched. Lives touching. Inextricably entwining. :- Doug.

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Life softens

Life softens us death more so :- Doug.

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