Category Archives: Family
profoundly, strategically, madly letting go in our family?
So how do we profoundly, strategically, madly let to in a family system? We get hung up over what without question we believe is true. It is not true. What is true? I do not know. You do not know. … Continue reading
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Rounding out our lives together?
How may we yet Be about Rounding our lives together? :- Doug.
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turn our heads when lost
We often get stuck in what’s not working, what’s the problem. Let us resolve to turn our heads when lost and see what is working. In our families, when we are hurt or afraid and want to pull away, we … Continue reading
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Untangling the emotions
Yesterday I met with two sisters to converse about care for Mom. The meeting grew heated; one was dog tired. The sisters have a need to continue as family. Both need to find a way to deal with their emotions. … Continue reading
Playing well together
In families we love to devise ways to play well together. Does more experience with playing together help us? Does more experience with playing well together help us? :- Doug.
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Don’t count on the VA….
Don’t count on the Veteran’s Administration or even Medicaid for all your Long-Term Care. You still need love: a kind touch, a cold wash cloth. :- Doug.
Given Mom’s dementia or decline….
Given this—Dad’s dementia or Mom’s decline—how can we fit together, now? What are our special gifts, needs, fears and visions, and what’s possible with us? :- Doug.
Retirement: bringing family closer
There is another image coming for me today: retirement, our own later years, turning them purposely toward bringing family closer together. We work and play with these our family members, children, grandchildren, sister, brother, individually and together. With renewed intention … Continue reading
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I am not the expert
I am not the expert. I am not here to teach you anything. You are the experts. You will teach—and invent me and each other. :- Doug.
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Financial planning these days….
Much financial planning these days is grounded in an unstated end game of self sufficiency. It’s all about me. We will not rely upon our children in our retirement, we will do what we want. We will not even involve … Continue reading
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Beyond exchanging information
Even though this is love at work, don’t think that in this conversation you are only exchanging information. (I love this word invent for two of its meanings: one means create; a second much older meaning sounds strange to our … Continue reading
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Starting what cannot be finished….
In living with our families—elder and younger together—do we play together in a way that what we are starting cannot be finished? :- Doug.
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