Category Archives: Family

Love is not

Posted on December 10, 2014 by dgermann

Love is not What we think It is :- Doug.

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To have a chance of staying out of a nursing home:

Posted on November 30, 2014 by dgermann

To have a chance at staying out of a nursing home: have at least one daughter. :- Doug.

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The nursing home, like war

Posted on November 29, 2014 by dgermann

The nursing home, like war, is a failure of imagination. For surely nursing homes as presently constituted are a war upon life, dignity, worth, and our parents and husbands and wives. :- Doug.

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Families facing nursing homes:

Posted on November 28, 2014 by dgermann

Families facing nursing homes: we might be of help. :- Doug.

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love your families

Posted on November 24, 2014 by dgermann

I’m not out to compete with others— I’m here to help my clients love their families :- Doug.

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Doors not walls

Posted on November 22, 2014 by dgermann

Hate and conflict too are doorways to mutual understanding: doors, not walls. :- Doug.

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What we care enough to fight over

Posted on November 21, 2014 by dgermann

Perhaps we do not have to examine our opinions and ideologies—our differences—so much as what we care about enough to fight over—our commons. Either way in to the circle ought to work, and maybe there are other doors. :- Doug.

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The wet washcloth

Posted on November 19, 2014 by dgermann

It has been said we spend more medical Dollars in the last months of life than the rest of life. Is it because our society wants—we want—to do something? To apply technology even to death? What if we shifted some … Continue reading →

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Who matters?

Posted on November 18, 2014 by dgermann

Who matters? These are Your family Even those you fight Who matters? :- Doug.

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The hopeful part

Posted on November 16, 2014 by dgermann

The hopeful part The exciting part Whatever we know The world Billows ever more :- Doug.

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Gently

Posted on November 16, 2014 by dgermann

I cannot have a handle on you But I can camp out beside :- Doug.

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Out beside

Posted on November 15, 2014 by dgermann

I cannot have a handle on you But I can camp out beside :- Doug.

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People feeling unsurd

Posted on November 13, 2014 by dgermann

The root of our problems is People feeling unsurd and unheen :- Doug.

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A whole litter

Posted on November 12, 2014 by dgermann

Advance Care Planning is not primarily to capture wishes But to coax them out of hiding And to engender a whole litter of them :- Doug.

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Suffer from Alzheimer’s?

Posted on November 11, 2014 by dgermann

Can people who have Alzheimer’s Disease suffer from it? Surely those around them do, and surely this person experiences pain. Pain is part of the human daily condition. But suffering is optional. We might wonder if, without memory of the … Continue reading →

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Conflict is always about something else

Posted on November 10, 2014 by dgermann

Conflict is always about something else. :- Doug.

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How to be a burden

Posted on November 9, 2014 by dgermann

You can be a burden on your family at end of life by stressing them, giving emotional pain, keeping them in the dark—not just by being a financial burden. More so, not letting people help or love you is a … Continue reading →

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