We have seasons We pass through them Or they pass through us No matter which Now we are faced with this Non ease which will end us Compel us in snowy cold To remove our garment of skin and hair … Continue reading →

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You only cook special things

Posted on March 10, 2015 by dgermann

You only cook special things for other people I make you things each day and give up some things I love Ahh yes, the everyday! :- Doug.

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For others, for others

Posted on March 10, 2015 by dgermann

This dying might be your now To do your highest Work For others, for others Only in the For For you :- Doug.

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Die a death fitting for your living

Posted on March 9, 2015 by dgermann

This chapter can reframe All the rest Die a death fitting for your living This is the Work Here your spirit shows through Now you teach now you learn Up you might go as you away This can be your … Continue reading →

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How long do you want to die?

Posted on March 9, 2015 by dgermann

How long do you want to die? Should your final illness and suffering last 3 hours, 3 days, 3 months? What if your level of pain were 3, 7, or 10? How long if the level of suffering for your … Continue reading →

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Her way

Posted on March 7, 2015 by dgermann

Her way—what are her ways? How can we honor that when she’s dying? :- Doug.

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Making the decision easier?

Posted on March 7, 2015 by dgermann

Is asking What would Dad want a way of making our decision easier? Yes, and that is not bad. But sometimes we need to think harder and more deeply for ourselves—and them. What is a good child to do? :- … Continue reading →

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My family will do the right thing?

Posted on March 7, 2015 by dgermann

My family will do the right thing. But how will they know? Unless I tell them? :- Doug.

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Now I don’t matter

Posted on March 6, 2015 by dgermann

Now I don’t matter I don’t care I don’t know the difference Your actions speak Even in Now My individuality matters I am not a thing Grist for your mill A task in your list I am A person Who … Continue reading →

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anger and the expected

Posted on March 5, 2015 by dgermann

There’s a disconnect between What we expected and what happens That’s where the anger works us :- Doug.

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to see inside a person

Posted on March 5, 2015 by dgermann

You can see inside a person by the questions He or she asks —and does not ask :- Doug.

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What life are we doing everything to keep going?

Posted on March 4, 2015 by dgermann

What life are we doing everything to keep going? The tubes and technology and drug-induced grogginess, interacting with new strangers every few hours? Or the most profound days of our lives? What can we do to make the latter? :- … Continue reading →

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